Music Can Heal You!

Music is renowned for its entertainment value. Millions of people listen to their favourite music everyday. It is rare for any human being not to be affected positively (or negatively) by certain kind of music. But music is just part of the large phenomenon called sound. An examination of sound will reveal that it actually heals.

Healing is often perceived to be in the jurisdiction of physicians, traditional healers and spiritual leaders. However, nature has its own methods of bringing relief to people. It is important to state this at the onset that human beings are part of nature and only by adhering to natural principles are they able to lead productive lives. Sound is part of those natural principles and those who understand this fact do not ignore the role of sound in healing.

Did You Know?

Sound is more than what we casually consider it to be. It is such a powerful force that it bestows health and tranquility. Its potency is evident when we cry, love or pour out other emotions after listening to music. Do you know people who change their moods suddenly and act in unexpected ways owing to music? You may not have scientific data to prove it, but music moves you in a manner that few other phenomena do. We sometimes get into the trap of believing that everything we cannot prove does not exist, thanks to science and empirical inquiry.

What Then, Is Sound?

It is not easy to define sound. However, an effective way of understanding sound is to think of it as vibrations or waves passing through the air to your ears. Experts opine that music helps us to send messages to the nervous systems of people and other creatures. Since the nervous system is the recipient of messages from the brain, sound and its healing effects can be transmitted throughout your body and those of other creatures.

The Effects Of Sound

What makes you turn on the radio to look for the station that is playing music instead of the one hosting a talk show? Have you noticed that when you are driving you are more likely to listen to music than to a news bulleting unless the news is sensational? More importantly, the music you listen to tends to inspire you to drive on and enjoy the exercise. There is something about the sound of music that propels you to want to listen to it.

Think about a lullaby and what it does to a child. By the way, you are likely to achieve more with a lullaby when trying to soothe a child to sleep than using force or threats. The rhythmic effect of music has the soothing effect that sends the little one to sleep. Actually, some mothers are known to listen to music when they are pregnant as a method of keeping the child healthy and happy long before birth.

You will also realise the magical effect of sound when you think about how we use music to spice up our events. Every major national event begins with the national anthem. Why? It is a call to patriotism. It appeals to the nationalistic values in citizens and rallies them towards a specific cause. Sports events are also preceded by musical entertainment. There is power in sound.

At a social level, people also utilise music for a number of reasons. Whether it is a birthday party or a wedding ceremony, you will find people losing their minds to the rhythm and sound of a good beat. That is when you find even little children rising up to try out an out-of-this-world dance move. Even those people you have always known to be docile and taciturn often find themselves withdrawing from social hibernation when their favourite music is played.

Let us also contemplate sounds that are not necessarily musical. Do you know people who like walking in the woods simply to listen to the chirping of birds and the howling of the wind as it finds its way through trees and other vegetation? I know people who find peace in those sounds. They feel at peace and rejuvenated when the wild sounds of nature reach their ears. Once you learn to appreciate natural sound, you become addicted to its invigorating effects. You find yourself in love with sounds that other people may not even understand.

But perhaps the most powerful but subtle effect of sound is healing. Advances in modern medicine have made people to forget that sound heals. It is a form of medicine that helps people, especially those in intensive care or those with mental problems, to come back to their normal states. You may also want to try sound when you are ill and you will realise that your body, spirit and mind will find new energy to rise up and overcome the illness.

Blue Water Ripples

We can see vibration on water!

How Does Sound Healing Work?

Sound reaches your body through vibrations that we call -voices, singling bowls, drums, gongs and other implements. You can see the vibrations in the water for example!


Singing Bowl

These sounds have different frequencies and are multifaceted. A single note of music is differentiated into individual aspects that reach your ear. You need to understand that some of the harmonics cannot be heard individually but they remain active in the background. They are powerful and attractive to the ear and impact your body positively. Your body organs have varying reactions to different tones thus making you to hear varying notes and dissimilar methods of voicing them. What some people call noisy music is actually the source of harmonies that bring peace and joy. The fact is that different instruments must work for the same purpose even if they produce different sounds.

How Is This Related To Healing?

Your body uses the same principle. Every organ must play its role but in harmony with the rest. They produce different ‘sounds’ energy vibrations, but harmony must result from this organised ‘noise’. However, if your body has disharmony among its organs, chaos will ensue. This chaos is what we call disease. Sound of healing has a core energy field, which ensures you have mental, emotional and physical health in the body. Changing this field means changes in the way your body operates and responds to stimuli.

Complications That Are Healed Through Sound Therapy

If you experience problems getting sleep, sound healing can work for you. Insomnia is a serious problem in the current generation. People engage in all sorts of activities to get money to the extent that their sleep patterns are interrupted. A simple way of doing this at home is to play your favorite music (or any soft music with slow beats) as you lie on the bed. Sleep will invade your territory even before you know it. It is similar to the lullaby you sing for a child to soothe them to sleep.

Another problem that can be healed through sound is anxiety or stress. Many of us go through life with a lot of anxiety. If you are a parent, there are bills to foot every month and children to take to school. Sometimes you have to work several jobs to make ends meet. Your days are spent at work and you rarely sleep adequately. Life becomes a serious struggle to remain alive. The only time you get to recuperate is when you can afford a holiday. This is the time when the healing sound of your favorite music can come handy.

Are you depressed? The reason you are despondent is the many saddening things that happen in life. Maybe a member of your family is sick. You may be grieving after losing a loved one. Probably you have lost your job and you don’t seem to find any at the time you need it. You walk as if the whole world in perched on your back and fastened with a metal cord. Giving up is what your mind is thinking all the time. Get some spiritual music and listen to it to gladden and uplift your soul.

Sound is also known to have powerful effects that can relieve pains and aches especially in the joints and muscles. For people who perform manual jobs and those who engage in sports, such pains are common. You can also fall into the same condition while performing your normal duties or when you contract tropical fevers such as malaria. While conventional music is desirable in this situation, you can get relief from listening to your preferred music. The soothing sound effects of a composition that you like can assuage your pain and give you the positive attitude you need at such a time.

Ever experienced a migraine? You know that painful headache that hits you like a hammer and prevents you from carrying out any activity. Regardless of what causes your pain, you wish that it would go anytime. Unfortunately, some migraines never go away easily. You have to look for the most potent pain killer. As you wait for the medicine to work, you can take refuge in the healing qualities of some cool music. Switch on the music, lie down and close your eyes to imbibe this rich healing flavor. It works for many people and you can try it out too. It may even work faster than the painkiller you have taken.

The healing qualities of sound can also come in handy for terminally ill patients. If you have ever visited a hospice then you know how low misery and pain can drag a human being. Some of the individuals in these places are also abandoned by their relatives thus making it hard for them to cope with chronic illnesses. Experts have established that soft music can bring the needed healing to these people. Since many of them spend most of their time agonising over their pain, music can gradually bring hope and rejuvenation to their bodies and souls.

For those who believe in chakras, music is very crucial in clearing jammed energy and psychological and emotional blocks. Sound helps positive energy to flow to all parts of the body. You can use it to assuage light-body mounting signs like confusion, fatigue and irritability. Sound will help you even when you feel nauseous. You will feel more vibrant and get your body, mind and soul health back faster than you can imagine.

As we conclude, think about a snake charmer and the way he or she uses music to tame the deadly creature. What is in the music that makes the snake obey the sound of a musical instrument? You have come across domestic animals that are lead to different areas by a herder who sings to them. Other people also milk their cows while playing music for the animals. It is evident that those who remain close to nature understand the efficacy of music in their lives and how they can use different sounds to get what they want and to heal others and themselves.

Tips On How To Use Sound For Healing

  1. Know the music that inspires and motivates you in manner that brings out the best positive qualities from you.
  2. Buy your favorite music and keep it close so that you can use it when the right situation arises.

  1. Religious or spiritual music has great healing effect particularly when you share the teachings being propagated in such music.

  1. If you can memorize and sing a song either singly or in accompaniment to a recorded version, you stand to gain more because you will be reminded of the principles you embrace.

  1. If you have sleeping problems, ensure you play the right kind of music before you get into bed and allow it to play throughout the night.

  1. Rhythm and beats matter regardless of the type of music you prefer. Very loud music with heavy beats will not heal migraines, for example.

7. If a sick person is in a position to choose, give them the opportunity to decide the type of music they want to listen to instead of imposing your preferences on them.

With love,

Your Grace Guru



How Kind Are You?

We live in a world where good and bad exist side-by-side. None of us are immune to misfortune. All of us would love to live a stress-free life, but this is the exception rather than the rule. At any one time, there are millions of people who are agonising over one problem or the other. When you meet anybody anytime, remember they are facing a battle and kindness from you will help!

But there is a question that you need to ask yourself “are you giving enough kindness?” Let us begin by emphasising that we all need kindness. As human beings, we cannot live alone, especially when misfortune strikes. Sooner or later, you will need people who can bring cheer into your life. For this reason, you need to start being kind to others.

Think of the orphaned child who does not know what the future will bring. While you are thinking about the delayed promotion at work, there is a child that has a bleak future unless you intervene with kindness. Remember that child that will never enjoy the warmth of a mother’s touch or her comforting words during scary moments.

The person you sit next to in the plane or train may be undergoing the stress and agony that accompanies divorce. After years of living together with another person and believing in ‘happily ever after’ sad reality suddenly dawns. That women or man could be a parent that does not understand what will happen to their children after divorce. Are you being kind enough to them?

Despite advanced medicine, we are witnessing more chronic and deadly diseases than ever before. There are countless people suffering from the physical and psychological effects of being HIV positive. Many of them have been rejected by their families and friends. They are regarded as outsiders. They are not welcome into social events as before. How kind are you to such people?

The cancer epidemic is devastating the world. The best medical care is unable to prevent people from contracting this dreaded illness. Somewhere in your neighbourhood, or in your family, there is someone undergoing radiation treatment or chemotherapy. The cost of these therapies and pertinent medicine is too high for some. Others have been transferred to hospices to spend their last days, secluded from society.

Is praying for them sufficient or you need to visit them and donate money or other materials for their treatment?


Recently, the world witnessed the unfortunate incident of a journalist in Eastern Europe who, instead of helping a refugee and his son to reach their intended destination safely, stuck out her leg and floored the poor guy and his son. How is that for kindness? We have become so callous that the suffering of other people fills some of us with joy. But how different are we from the camera lady?

We condemn refugees fleeing war in the Middle East without bothering to understand their predicaments?

 Are you giving enough kindness to your spouse or partner? This person expects you to understand them more than anybody else. They go to work and come home tired. They want to have a tasty meal and have a peaceful evening. It is possible that this person had a bad day at work. Some have quarreled with their bosses and workmates. Others messed up important processes and have been warned. What does such a person expect when they arrive home? A querulous partner? A demanding and nagging spouse?

Some parents are also not kind to their children. Not all children will bring excellent grades all the time. Sometimes the grades will fluctuate. Unfortunately, some parents are harsh and even violent to children who seem not to perform well in school. Quarrelling the child and threatening them will only worsen the situation. This child needs a parent who will listen and understand. After all, if someone went behind the scene and checked your performance at the same grade as your child, you may have no moral authority to question their performance!

There are many examples that one can cite of situations when you need to exercise more kindness. Always remember that you can be the person in need of kindness in the examples we have cited. It is for your own good that you learn to be kind to other people, whether you know them or you don’t. You may ignore that old man who cannot cross the road by himself, but sooner or later, you will be in a similar position.

Need I remind you that karma is a bitch?


Cultivate kindness while remembering that the universe is one. We are interconnected. No one is independent of the other. Fate and destiny are real. Whatever good or evil you do to others will eventually come back to you. You have a free will but you must exercise it in doing good to others. Our life on earth is transient. Today you are here but tomorrow you will be gone. Do good such that those who remain will have a good reason to remember you.

You don’t need to have a lot of money to exercise kindness that impacts others powerfully. Kindness can become an effortless attitude when you begin to embrace it. Find people in your family, neighborhood and society who need your help. Some of the items you don’t need any more could be precious to others. That sweet and comforting speech you are keeping in your heart could gladden the heart of another person.

Cultivate kindness while remembering that the universe is one. We are interconnected. No one is independent of the other. Fate and destiny are real. Whatever good or evil you do to others will eventually come back to you. You have a free will but you must exercise it in doing good to others. Our life on earth is transient. Today you are here but tomorrow you will be gone. Do good such that those who remain will have a good reason to remember you.

You don’t need to have a lot of money to exercise kindness that impacts others powerfully. Kindness can become an effortless attitude when you begin to embrace it. Find people in your family, neighborhood and society who need your help. Some of the items you don’t need any more could be precious to others. That sweet and comforting speech you are keeping in your heart could gladden the heart of another person.

Whatever you do, endeavour to be kinder through you actions and words, for your kindness will come back to you in equal measure when you need it most, and that could be soon.

With Love,

Your Grace Guru



The Importance Of Letting Go

The marvels and limitations of the material world can serve as a motivating factor or a hindrance to the realisation of your dreams. Depending on your experiences, you might be tempted to think that you will never make it or, alternatively, that you have the power to achieve anything you want. Where exactly do you stand?

One fact of life is that we are limited. However, there exists another greater and infinite power that can help us deal with our weaknesses. It is a personal choice, therefore, whether to sit and whine about your troubles, or to unite with the higher power to achieve your dreams.

Picture These Scenarios…

How many people do you know who always find a reason why they cannot take on a certain challenge? “I can’t finish this course because I don’t have money.” “I can’t travel to Bali because I don’t have money.” Or “If only I had been born in a rich family…” You’ve heard such statements, or even made them, for so long that they now sound like clichés. Unfortunately, what you affirm with your mouth repeatedly eventually becomes true. Now you know why you cannot make it through a problem or a challenge once your brain tells your heart that it is not possible.

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Limiting Divine Power

Apart from those who call themselves atheists, most of us belief in a Divine Being. We all have names for this infinite power. Some call it God while others prefer to use the term Supreme Being. I mentioned this already in my article about Prayers (can we add a link here to the prayers article?)Whichever name you prefer, you acknowledge that there is a higher power that influences and controls your life.

I will call this power God for the purpose of this article. I want to suggest to you that God not only has power over the universe but can also give you part of this power to overcome your limitations. There is a catch, though. It is possible for you to limit what God can do for you through the restrictions you place on yourself.

Most of these limitations are in your mind. In most cases they are created and nurtured through repeated negatives experiences, negative affirmations and erroneous beliefs. For example, if you were taught, directly or indirectly, that you are weak and incapable of rising above your troubles, you are most likely going to remain in the same situation until and unless you acknowledge that God can give you the strength to overcome your challenges.

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How Exactly Does It Work?

Divine power is unlimited energy that created everything you see and know. It works in unseen ways in your life to provide you with the things you really need. Remember there is a difference between needs and wants. In out finite wisdom we sometimes confuse needs and wants but God does not.

God brings into your path the persons, situations, places and scenarios which are meant to transform your life for the better. Unfortunately, owing to your limited thinking and predetermined expectations you fail to see these signs of fortune even when they are placed before your eyes. You fail to notice coincidences and obvious signs that can lead to unbound universal blessings.


Trust Is The Key

I do not blame you if you think the ways of God are too complex to comprehend. After all you are used to visible things. You see first and believe later. You have no ability to see the future and you, therefore, cannot see the blessings Divinity has placed before you in the days to come.

That is why you need to have trust. You must believe that even though you cannot see it, God is opening your way and preparing abundance before you. You must let go your feelings and beliefs of inadequacy and allow God to illuminate your path. By surrendering yourself to Divine presence you will attract countless benefits. You will also become a conduit for many to reach out to God seeing how your life has been transformed.

Free From Limitations

It’s never too late to free yourself from negative feelings and thought and reconnect with divinity. Let go your weak will and begin to live from your soul. Only then will God release unfathomable blessings that were created for you in particular. Take heart because you don’t have to make animal sacrifices or pay millions of dollars to reach this ideal.

All you need to do is to create a positive affirmation on your desire to receive from God while also expressing your trust in the life set out for you. Write down the affirmation in a present time.


“Self-love helps me make positive changes easily.”

“Money is a state of mind that supports me. I allow prosperity to enter my life on a higher level then ever before.”

“My partner is the love of my life. We adore each other.”

(affirmations by Louise L. Hay)

Read it loudly every day after waking up and before going to bed, while you are still a bit sleepy. Now that you have kindled the fire, listen and watch keenly as you will get clues and hints from all directions on which direction you should take to change your life for the better.



  1. The life you are living today may not be what you have always wanted but it can change if you so desire.
  2. Although there are many reasons to be despondent in life, you have the ability change your situation.
  3. The many negative things you affirm to yourself eventually become reality. Be every careful what you believe and say about yourself – it will always come true.
  4. We have been taught and socialized into some ways of thinking that are limiting and this needs to change if we are to have fulfilling lives.
  5. It requires great effort to change your thinking and philosophy after many years of subscribing to negativity, but you have no choice if you must desire a better life.
  6. Divine Power or God created the universe and continues to sustain it. This is the power that is available for you to tap into and change your life.
  7. When we believe we cannot accomplish some things and that our fates are sealed, we limit the power of God to change our lives.
  8. Only through trust in Divine Power and its willingness to transform our lives can we transcend our limitations and achieve unimaginable things.
  9. You need to let go your feelings and thoughts of inadequacy and open yourself to the spiritual world where Divine Power will guide you through daily challenges.

Create a positive affirmation about your life and see how God will release his power and providence everyday into your life. Recite the affirmation every day.


With love,

Your Grace Guru



Create A Major Life Change!

Deep inside each human being is the need for positive progress and change. You want to move from one step to another, especially in the direction you have identified to be the right one. Only then will you feel that life has any value for you.

The greatest obstacle, however, lies in our nature as humans. We are creatures of habits and breaking a habit can be challenging. We often get so accustomed to certain ways of doing things that we create comfort zones. When the time to change comes, we resist it because we want to remain in our little cocoons of comfort.

How then can you ensure that you embrace a major change in your life?

  1. Have a Vision

The Good Book that Christians use for doctrinal purposes holds that in the absence of a vision, people perish. A vision is some form of a mental image on what changes you want to see in your life. Every great achievement begins with an idea. Whatever your motivation for change, you need to clearly define your destination.

You cannot realize any major change in your life when your vision is hazy. Exactly where do you want to be in terms of your career in the next two years? What is your preferred relationship status and by when should you have achieved it? Of course your vision must be SMART (specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and time-bound).

  1. Create An Actionable Plan To Back Your Vision

A vision will remain a mere statement unless it is backed by a viable plan. To create a major life change, you need to gather information towards making your vision a reality. You may want to borrow strategic planning concepts and plans from organisational settings. Planning constitutes the direction you will take towards your destination (vision).

A good plan is SMART. Moreover, when planning for a major change in your life, you need to understand your strengths and weaknesses as well as the resources at your disposal. It is also important to make your intentions clear. Remember, though, that no plan is full-proof.

  1. Acknowledge What Holds You Back

When creating a major change in your life, it is crucial for you to look back at what has hampered you in the past. Habits are very strong and can keep your from your dreams. How many times have you tried to overcome your addiction to drugs or porn? How many times did you vow never to engage in a negative habit only to revert to it the following day? Acknowledge and deal with the reasons that always thwart your plans to change.

A good example of factors that hinder progress for most individuals is peer pressure. I have seen people who enrol in fitness clubs to shed off excess weight leaving midway through their exercise regiments because their peers do not approve of such efforts. As part of your plan, devise strategies to deal with such people and habits.

  1. Have A Positive Attitude

Many people who want to see change rise or fall when it comes to attitude. Have you ever been told that all you need to shed excess weight is to exercise and eat well? While this is true, it is only so partly. Unless you have a winning mentality that believes your dream is possible, you are likely to fall along the way when challenges begin to emerge.

Physicians often remind us that most of the illnesses we think we are suffering from are simply mental illusions. You obviously have heard of the placebo effect, which illustrates that whatever we believe in works for us in most circumstances. Whatever change you need to see in your life must be informed by the vision you have.

  1. Involve Others

No man is an island, goes the famous cliché. That change you are looking for will impact someone else either positively or negatively. The best way to make sure you achieve your dreams and enjoy doing so is by involving significant people in your life during formation of the idea, planning and implementation.

Let’s take the example of a working mother who wants to advance her studies to get a promotion at work or to change careers. For her to attain this ideal, she needs the support of her employer, husband, children and other relatives. People who really value you will also encourage you along the way as you reach for the change you desire.

  1. Have Patience 

For any significant change to occur in your life, be ready for obstacles. Nothing good is attained when the waters are smooth. You might as well forget about the change you want if you are not willing to face and navigate rough waters. As they say, a ship at the harbour is safe but that is not what it was designed for.

Some of the challenges you need to handle will come from your own poor attitude and inherent weaknesses. Others will emanate from your family, workplace or even community. It is important to have your vision in mind and to remember you are doing this for yourself. You have to remain steadfast in the midst of obstacles.

  1. Review Your Progress

Finally, do not forget to sit back and review how far you have come. This should be on a regular basis. Monitoring and reviewing your progress is a sure way of ensuring you identify possible weaknesses and device strategies to overcome them before they run out of hand. Take time also to celebrate milestones as you move towards the change your desire.

If you are in the process of shedding excess weight, for example, you must weigh yourself regularly, preferably weekly, to know how well you are doing. Moreover, you need to discuss your progress or regress with your personal trainer to identify areas of weakness.


Points to Remember!

  1. Every major change comes at a cost. There can be no victory without sacrifice and sacrifice is by nature painful.
  2. Internalize the change you want to see by creating mental pictures and feeling the consequences of that change in your life even before you achieve it.
  3. Change cannot be achieved in a vacuum. People are key players in any change process. Ignore them at your own peril.
  4. Change begins with you and you must desire it so much so that you are willing to sacrifice your pleasures for some time to achieve what you want.
  5. Do not chew more than you can swallow. It would be a miracle for you to become a dollar millionaire in one month if you have no job currently and have no viable business idea you are working on.
  6. Having a spiritual dimension is important. Whatever you subscribe to as the Higher Being, ensure you involve it in your plans.
  7. Study the experiences of others to get inspired. Talk to people who have undergone momentous but deliberate transformation. Watch them on TV or read their stories for motivation.
  8. Listen to your inner voice. Whether you are planning or implementing, never forget to listen to your heart. It is rarely wrong. If it says that you change, do it.
  9. The naysayers will always be watching you, waiting for your downfall. Remain true to your vision and plan.
  10. Celebrate when you create that major change in your life. Reward yourself. Remember current triumphs will motivate you to set higher goals and achieve them.

With love,

Your Grace Guru



Is Your Workspace Spiritual?

One of the most fallacious and detrimental ideas I have come across is the belief that you can separate your life into distinct physical, spiritual and metal spheres. It is like separating an engine and the chassis and claiming you still have a car. This happens especially in relation to our working environments.

I come across people who believe that they cannot meditate in their workplaces. While there are many in offices who want to curtail stress and connect with their inner souls and the Divine Being, they often lack strategies for doing this. Actually, there is no better place to look for peace like your workplace because you experience a lot of stress in this environment.


Acknowledging Your Spirituality 

All this would change, if we realise that you are a spiritual being even before you become a worker. I don’t understand why you can consider yourself a spiritual being at home and feed your spiritual needs, yet when you go to work you become a physical being exclusively. The tragedy is that your job steals your energy to the extent that you begin to prioritise your physical needs above everything else.

How does this make you feel? Don’t you think that is the reason you sometimes don’t feel like going to work? Your mind, body and soul consider the work environment to be hostile to your spiritual needs. You wonder when working hours will come to an end so that you rush home to meditate. Considering work is an integral part of life, don’t you think you need to introduce your spirituality into your working environment?

Spirituality Is A Philosophy And Lifestyle, Not An Event!

From the onset, you must realize that spirituality should imbue your life. It is not a one-off event that happens when you arrive at home. If you understand this the environment you are in will not be a hindrance to your connection with yourself and Divine Power. Your soul needs to be nurtured at the same time and rate as your body and mind. Have you ever come across people who are very spiritual during the weekend and who become tyrants and sadists during the week?

How To Carry Spirituality Into The Workplace

The best strategy is to create a regular meditation plan. This is your ticket to an improved life as well as satisfaction and happiness in your place of work. You can accomplish this by having a number of reminders in your working environment:

  1. Life is larger than your work: Work is just part of what you need to live well but it is not everything. You are a human being who enjoys and requires happiness, encouragement love and support. Actually, you only feel fulfilled when your spiritual life is thriving.

As a spiritual being, the need for spiritual nurture should transcend all others because a weak soul is detrimental to your entire being.

  1. You need to meditate in order to release stress and thus improve performance: Stress kills productivity and efficiency. Meditation helps you to be innovative, creative, cooperative and communicative, which are important characteristics that every worker should have to deliver expected results. You come first: When you meditate or relax in silent contemplation, you learn to appreciate yourself in a profound manner. You then become a better decision-maker because you understand exactly what you need.

 Meditation is the best strategy for dealing with stress, which is a key reason for poor performance in your workplace. 

  1. Stop the hurry: You may deliver all your tasks before time, but the cost of doing so may affect your ability to function optimally tomorrow. Often what you deliver in a hurry turns out to be of poor quality. When you feel you are not in the right state of mind, it is better to slow down and return to the task when you are rejuvenated even if that means being late.

Learn to slow down in your workplace because most of what you accomplished when in a hurry is not fully completed or may leave you with burnout. 

  1. You need to feed your soul just like your tummy: When you are in optimal spiritual health, you can concentrate on the present because you have dealt with the past. The future will not bother you because you have the confidence to face it. Take the example of the Bible where Christians are urged to seek the kingdom of God first and all their other needs will be fulfilled.

You are created with a spiritual faculty that requires to be nurtured irrespective of where you are and the time.

  1. Meditation is a potent power for change: You can give your spirituality a boost by meditating in your workplace. It is a proven strategy for normalising your blood pressure, finding tranquility and boosting your breathing. When you meditate, you discipline your mind to concentrate and this is important for your professional life.

There is no mandatory time and place to meditate if you really care about your inner self.

 Your body, mind and soul are equally important and mutually interdependent. Meditating in your workplace will help you to realise who you really are. By understanding yourself, you will make it easy to perform your professional duties effectively and efficiently. Neglecting your spiritual needs for the sake of delivering your work on time is a weapon for destroying yourself and your professionalism.

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Tips To Take With You To Your Workspace:

  1. Your professional life is as important as you spiritual life. Do not neglect your inner self for the sake of your job.
  2. Just as you have time for eating, create time too for meditation and other forms of spiritual nurture. Even 3 or 5 minutes of putting your headphones on and listen to a meditation APP or relaxed music will make a huge difference.
  3. Place reminders in your workplace so that you don’t forget the importance of your inner, self, meditation and their interconnectedness:
  4. Remember to breath
  5. Use positive affirmation
  6. Place some refreshing room sprays near your desk, and spray when you feel you need to wake up or to calm down.
  7. Happy Family, friends or beautiful art photos and pictures, they are always mood uplifting and bring comfort

But don’t overdo it all by creating out of your desk an altar and your office a temple. Make sure you place all your reminders with style and chick. Even if you have a Fortune Buddha sitting on your desk, a funny pictures of your children or a beautiful affirmation., don’t be shy that other people or colleagues will notice, be an example and inspiration for them. People will look up to you and its always a good start for an easy conversation before a serious meeting.


With love,

Your Grace Guru!



Success For A Woman 101

I grew up listening to the cliché, “behind every successful man is a woman.” You and I have heard it repeated countless times, especially when a successful male entrepreneur, political leader or professional are being honoured. The woman gets a mention for her support for her man. But it is just that – a mention.


Have you ever taken time to ask yourself whether the wife, girlfriend or lover of a successful man is also successful? If we phrased the threadbare statement the other way round would it still be valid and acceptable to society? This is what I mean: Behind every successful woman is a man.

I guess you will have a problem agreeing with this statement especially if you consider the history behind successful women you know. Very few, if any, successful women can attribute their prosperity to men. I want to state this from the onset because I intend to discuss other approaches to success for a woman with no man involved, at least not significantly.

Tested and proven strategies that bring success to a woman…

The approaches I will suggest here are not silver bullets towards success for a woman. They will not yield success overnight. Do not expect that you will miraculously wake up successful simply because you followed what I am proposing in this article.

I have endeavoured to study successful women and to come up with the principles that most of them used to arrive at their current statuses. There is no particular formula or way of succeeding. How you mix and match these principles is largely dependent on you and you alone.

These principles have been used by women entrepreneurs, actresses, musicians, talk show hosts, TV personalities, sportswomen, politicians, academicians and women in all careers you know of. Each of them has found success in their own ways.

 Here are 12 crucial principles that result in success for a woman:

1. Meditate Regularly

It is unfortunate that many of us associate meditation with yoga and conclude that because we are not Indians or Buddhists, meditation is not our thing. What many women do not know is that meditation is not a preserve of any religion. Anyone can and should meditate.

Most successful women have regular meditation sessions. They take time to connect with their inner self. When you meditate, you take time off from your daily activities, create some quiet time, and imbibe positive energy.

Make meditation part of your life. That is what you need to interact effectively with colleagues, customers, your boss and family members. Further, after a hard day’s work, you need to tap into your inner reserves to get the energy you need to work on other projects.

  1. Take One Day At A Time

Success for a woman comes after a hard day’s work. There is no genuine success that will come your way of you don’t work for it. It is crucial therefore that you take every day as it comes. The trouble of a single day is enough for that day. Why try to deal with yesterday or tomorrow on the present day?

Plan your day and handle what is humanly possible. That is what success for a woman entails. Remember there is that child waiting for you at home, or there will be at some point. Juggling between your family, career and societal demands is challenging, but if you want to be successful, you must live one day at a time.

  1. Adapt To Situations

Success for a woman means getting into many situations that demand different attitudes and reactions. Such situations arise at work, at home, in business negotiations, in the social scene and so on. How will you balance different situations?

To be regarded as a successful woman you must be ready to face the good days as well as the bad ones. The mark of a great woman is the ability to come out happy and triumphant at the end of whatever situations you are facing.

  1. Learn To Shift Your Mental Focus

Success for a woman requires a lot of deliberate mental effort. For example, what happens when there are unpleasant issues confronting you and you feel you cannot get rid of them? Remember if you had a bad day at home it is possible to come with those feelings to work and project them on others.

The solution lies in shifting your thoughts to something pleasant. It is not an easy task, but it is necessary. Even when unpleasant thoughts invade your mind at night think about the things that make you happy e.g. your children, travel or shopping. Concentrate on your previous success to find motivation for current challenges.

  1. Set Priorities

When pursuing success, it is possible for a woman to forget that she is just human. Many times, a woman chews more than she can swallow. The multiplicity of tasks and roles that must be accomplished can befuddle you to the point of losing focus. The temptation to multitask is high.

Successful women know how to prioritize. After all, you have only 24 hours to perform your tasks and almost a third of this time will be spent sleeping. The best strategy in this case is to prioritize. List all the tasks that you have to do and rate them in order of importance and urgency. Do not let what you can do tomorrow affect what needs to be done today if you want to be a successful woman.

  1. Excel At What You Do

Success for a woman comes through excellent performance. I am not talking about perfection, but doing your best in whatever you do. In a world where women are considered inferior to men in many societies, nothing beats a woman who knows her trade and accomplishes with the highest level of expertise.

The best strategy to overcome negative comments and reactions to your roles and position as a woman is to work diligently and deliver quality services and products in whatever you are tasked to do. People will respect you for your accomplishments and will find it hard to find excuses to discriminate against you.

  1. Watch What You Eat

You are what you eat. I know you have heard this so many times before that you wonder why I have to repeat it here. The question is: do you believe you are what you eat? There is an obesity epidemic and many women are practically disabled or are at the risk of imminent death because of poor eating habits.

Success for a woman demands that she eats a balanced diet. Kindly discard those sweet but nutrient-deficient fries from your diet. Those hamburgers, soft drinks and salty foods that you eat in excess are not the diet of successful women. You need to have a healthy body to function optimally, and it starts with your choice of diet and the times you when you take your meals.

  1. Exercise Regularly

The modern successful woman is confronted by a unique but delicate situation. Our foremothers (is there is anything like that) worked in farms or performed manual duties while their husbands went out to look for food and other necessities. Today, the workplace is more of a stationary desk with a computer where almost all transactions are carried out. The proliferation of lifestyle diseases is the dreadful repercussion of this lifestyle.

Success for a woman means not only eating well but also exercising the body. You need to go out and practice yoga or run regularly. Alternatively, you can attend a gym and exercise under the guidance of a fitness trainer. Endeavor to stretch out your body and overcome excess weight / fat. Working out rejuvenates your body and mind while nourishing your skin and making it look younger and healthier.

  1. Don’t Try To Please Everyone

Bill Cosby, the great American comedian was once asked to give his secret of success. He retorted that he did not know the secret of success but he knew the one for failure. “The secret of failure is trying to please everybody,” he said. That is timeless wisdom on having your own principles and adhering to them.

Successful women set their goals and set out to achieve them. They do not bother doing what others want. Remember you cannot please everybody because everyone will want you to meet a different set of expectations. You will end up not pleasing anybody and will create more enemies.

  1. Listen To Critics To Know Where To Improve

Do you get exasperated by people talking negatively about you and wonder when they will stop? Yes, they will, but that will be when they have bid your farewell as you transit to the next world. Successful women know that people must talk about them and a great chunk of what is said will be negative.

Your work is not to bother with the negatives. Rather, listen to what is being said with an eye for improvement. People don’t discuss issues or objects that have no significance. The fact that they are talking about you is enough evidence that you have impacted their lives. Gather what is important from their criticism and find ways to incorporate it in your plans without informing them.

  1. Watch Less TV

You might be wondering what is wrong with me or what my problem is with TV. You may be the type of woman that cannot do without a soap opera or that addictive movie series. Probably you are the political type that must watch news and political analyses without fail. But have you ever wondered what value TV has in your life.

The most successful women list TV as a non-priority. Instead of spending the entire day watching other people acting and making money, successful women engage in other productive pastimes. For example, they read inspirational books or those that relate to their professions. Leave TV to the average achiever or non-achiever. Live such that you can be the subject of a TV program, not the viewer.

  1. Keep A Circle Of Genuine Friends

You are a human being and human touch is very important for your success. You need to have a circle of genuine friends in all spheres of your life, be it professional or social. You need people who can listen to you, offer advice, critique you constructively or simply be there for you.

To be successful, you need people who feel you. They must be people who share your ideals. I am not just talking about your family. You need more than that. This circle of friends will keep you motivated and informed. Successful women do not succeed alone. I need to conclude by saying that behind every successful woman are these twelve principles and especially a clique of genuine friends.


With love,

Your Grace Guru