How To Connect With Yourself

That we live in a busy world and society is not in doubt. From the moment you jump out of bed to the time you thankfully crawl under your bedsheets to get less-than-adequate sleep, your mind and body are busy. And who can blame you for being busy? Since the day we allowed capitalism and the law of the jungle to be our guiding principles, it is anathema for anybody of working age to be lounging on a sofa when they should be looking for an extra dollar. But is there a price to pay for this level of busyness?

You guessed it; there is, and an expensive one for that matter. If you are thinking that someone else will pay the price for your busy life, please think twice. You are the greatest loser. How can I be the loser when I am hustling to make a living? Because you are forgetting to feed the cow that produces the milk. In essence, in the process of fending for yourself and your family, you are likely to forget to create time for yourself.

I know people have praised you because you are a multi-tasking geek. You can juggle working, parenting, charity work and so on. You have been told countless times how you inspire people by the amount of work you can accomplish in a single day. You are happy because they single you out in your workplace as a person to be emulated for your work; after all, you are the first person in the office and always the last. You have even started indicating in your resume that you are good at multi-tasking.

It is important to remember that the human body is made of flesh and blood. You are not a machine that simply needs to be repaired to work for another day. You cannot be replaced once you are gone. There are no spare brains, hands, teeth, heart, kidney, liver and so on. Irrespective of how much money you make, you will end up paying through constant illness, obesity, loss of friends, accelerated ageing and many other negative effects. It is no longer a luxury to have time to recuperate.

Be honest with yourself. What happens when sleep comes for its debt? I know you are using alarms and all sort of medicine to keep yourself awake, but for how long will you survive on this strategy? When was the last time you spent quality time with your partner, spouse or children? Let’s come close to your heart, do you remember the last time you went out by yourself simply to catch fresh air and relax your mind? I know you don’t. You even think those who get time for themselves are either very rich, lazy or thieves. You justify yourself by saying you are waiting for the day you will have a lot of money for you to have some fun. Guess what? That day is never coming your way any time soon! You have to create it.

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What You Need To Do

There is person inside you that longs for fun and rejuvenation. This is the same person you have been overworking. You need to reward him or her by connecting with them every now and then. Let us discuss a number of actions that you can take today to win back your ‘self’ and reward your body for paying your bills for the past many days, months or even years.

  1. Know Yourself

What drives you? What exactly is your heart telling you in terms of the things that make you happy? If you were to summarise the values that drive you what would they be? After writing these things down, you will realise that the work you do daily and the people you associate with may not be giving you the opportunity to be yourself. What you need is to break the monotony of work and routine and to find regular time to express your core values. If you like philanthropy or community work, make time for such activities and you will gladden your heart.

  1. Create Time For Family

Except for those unfortunate to have lost all their loved ones and have no family at all, all of us have blood relatives that care about us deeply. You are a son or daughter to a certain ageing man or woman who longs to spend some quality time with you as used to happen when you were young and vulnerable. How about the little sister or brother with whom you executed so much mischief? They may be grown up today but deep inside them is that mischievous child that would want to relive the moment again, albeit through shared stories. I don’t know what the problem is with grandparents; they never seem to believe that you are already a parent yourself! They simply want to treat you the same way they did when you were a toddler. If sharing time with these people will not help you connect with yourself, I bet you have a serious problem.

  1. Revive Friendship Circles

We don’t live in a vacuum and friends are part of the circle that keeps us sane and productive. Being busy has the tendency of driving away the people you love from your life. When you begin concentrating on your work, you may also start to lose your friends, one by one. I know your friends are also busy people and they have little time for the activities that brought you together before. For their sake and yours too, reach out to them and begin to enjoy being together as you used to. As you discuss serious issues, as you gossip and engage in idle chatter, something in you will be ignited to give you a reason to smile again.

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  1. Take A Walk Alone

You are used to driving or being driven every day. You don’t even remember when last you walked on the grass or pavements in your neighbourhood. Your heart has longed to go into the woods and imbibe fresh air. Your love the chirping of birds and the noises made by various animals but you have always lacked time. Maybe you grew up in the country and years of living in a concrete jungle are suffocating you. What are you waiting for? Get out and walk into the woods. Go watch swans doing what they know best at the lake. Take time and lie on the grass in the park to get a bout of real natural air instead of the motor vehicle exhaust fumes you have become accustomed to in the city.

  1. Keep A Journal

I am not a good writer, you say. Journal keeping is not an exercise in writing skills. It is a psychological tool to help you reflect on your day. It makes you aware of the ways in which you are neglecting yourself. A journal is an honest look at your day while you reflect on how the day benefitted you. It is also a leisure activity that you have to create time every day. It helps to reconnect with yourself because you have to pose questions and get answers on how well you are treating yourself.

I know there are many more strategies for reconnecting yourself. Whether you want to meditate, lie idly on the sofa, sleep, listen to music, go on holiday, sing or play, the most important thing is that you give time to activities that rejuvenate your body, freshen your mind and give pleasure to your soul.

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With Love,

Your Grace Guru



Who Is The Real Winner?

The desire to be first and to receive praise is the undoing of many of us. For some strange reason, we tend to believe that we are competing with one another. It is a fact that human beings are similar in many ways, but they are also very different. Biologically, we function the same way and are exposed to similar challenges and illnesses. However, when we enter the social realm, all the parameters change.

Deceptive Perceptions

The world of perceptions is deceptive. We always find reasons to believe that we must strive to be like others. Granted, there is always somebody who will be more handsome or beautiful, stronger, slimmer, faster, smarter and of course younger!

Race To The Top

Life then becomes a race for the top, irrespective of how we get there. You may blame it on instincts – Charles Darwin called it survival for the fittest. You may want to attribute it to our school systems – were we not taught to be the best in our classes?

Danger Of Obsession

But did you know there is some danger in being obsessed with ‘leading while others follow?’

Think about it this way: would it not be better if you set your own goals and strived to achieve them instead of blindly competing with people whose goals you don’t know or share? It is unfortunate that many of us lose focus of what we want to achieve and instead concentrate on being better than others.

The Destination Or The Competition?

Here is one of my favourite examples: A family is taking a car trip from London to Paris! The journey is exciting; the experience unforgettable and punctuated with merry songs. Suddenly the father realises there is another car on the same route, headed to Paris. In a moment of unexplained madness, he decides to accelerate to arrive in Paris before the other driver – a perfect stranger. His concern is no longer with the destination but ‘winning.’ Only competition matters.

The journey of life has its difficulties and challenges and remaining focused on your goal is imperative. There is enough to worry about to the extent that competing with other people becomes unnecessary and useless. Beside, we are all created with different talents and abilities. Live your life and seek to be a winner against your goals not fellow travellers and strangers!

With Love,

Your Grace Guru



What Is The Best Investment You Can Make?

One of the pillars of wealth-making is investment. Investment decisions often determine the type of life you and your offspring will lead. Investment experts make a lot of money doling out nuggets of information on the best way to create a secure financial future. You will come across a lot of financial advice on where to put your money but none is more powerful than to invest in yourself.

We all go to work to make a living and ensure we have a secure future, which also includes our offspring. So the first pillar of building wealth is to work and get some income. That is why you sacrifice sleep and other luxuries as you toil for a living. There is a lot of joblessness in the world today. Not many people have the luxury of having the kind of job you have. So when you get a job, you need to give it your best.

You only earn an income by waking up in the morning and availing yourself at work on time. You must also learn to follow instructions from your bosses. With time, you will move up the ladder to positions of higher responsibility. This should be your goal because the need to progress is deeply ingrained in each one of us. However, in the contemporary workplace, progress does not only come from the number of years you have served in a firm.

That is why you need to consider investing in yourself.

To begin with, you need to invest in your education. You must identify the best courses that can make you a better professional. I know you would like to build a house and live comfortably. But education is one investment you can never go wrong with. Even if you lose your job or become broke, the knowledge you have accumulated through education will give you another. It is an investment that no one can steal from you. Your promotion depends on how well you progress on the educational ladder. Even if it means studying after work or through email, consider it an investment worth putting your money into.

While working, you need to think about another important investments. There is one important person that will never leave you – yourself. How important is it for you to earn as much money as you can yet not have the health to enjoy it? Invest in your health. Don’t overwork your body for money that will be in your life for a short moment. In the busy materialistic world we live in it is possible to believe that when you take time off work, your life will become a cropper. That is a lie.

Create time for exercises that will stretch out your body and rejuvenate it. Don’t allow obesity to become your lot. Seek the help of a fitness expert who can prescribe the best workout routines for your situation. In addition, eat a balanced diet and particularly a lot of fruits and vegetables inaddition to taking a lot of water. Invest in fresh fruit juices and smoothies instead of soft drinks and carbonated beverages.

Your mental and emotional health is another crucial area of self-investment. Surround yourself with people who love and value you. Create time for your partner or spouse. If you have children, invest in quality time with them. There is nothing that will bring fulfillment in your life than to see your offspring growing up into responsible men or women. To know that you played an important role in bringing up another human being responsibly surpasses many other investments or achievements.


Investing in yourself also implies having time for your soul. I know this may sound unusual for some people but your spiritual life is as important as your physical and mental faculties. The good news is that you need no material resources to build your spiritual life. Whichever religion you subscribe to, make time for communion with the Supreme Being. You can also delve into yoga and meditation to make your spiritual experience even better. Spirituality makes you a well-rounded person who can interact well with other people. More importantly, it gives you tranquilityand contentment thus making it a worthy investment.

Woman meditating in side balance yoga position on the top of a mountainsInvestment in yourself also depends on how much you save – another important pillar of wealth-making. When you save, you create a reserve that will help you to further invest in yourself especially by travelling around the world. It has been said that life is not a rehearsal. You will only live once. Take time to give your life a treat. Visit those places that you only read in travel magazines. Make time to visit iconic places in the world! If you love wild animals, go on a safari in one of the best parks in the world. If you love sports, why don’t you visit one of those overseas teams that you support on a day when they are playing and watch their match live?

There is no better investment than the one geared towards making yourself a better person. I suggest that you learn a new language. When you visit people in their country and locality and they realise that you can speak their language yet you are not a native speaker, you make them appreciate you more. You can begin by enrolling in an international language that you have never spoken. How about French, Arabic, German, Chinese and any other language you deem important. Today you can learn an entire language through online means, which means you don’t have to spend time in a physical classroom.

When all is said and done, the best investment is in yourself.

With Love,

Your Grace Guru



How Kind Are You?

We live in a world where good and bad exist side-by-side. None of us are immune to misfortune. All of us would love to live a stress-free life, but this is the exception rather than the rule. At any one time, there are millions of people who are agonising over one problem or the other. When you meet anybody anytime, remember they are facing a battle and kindness from you will help!

But there is a question that you need to ask yourself “are you giving enough kindness?” Let us begin by emphasising that we all need kindness. As human beings, we cannot live alone, especially when misfortune strikes. Sooner or later, you will need people who can bring cheer into your life. For this reason, you need to start being kind to others.

Think of the orphaned child who does not know what the future will bring. While you are thinking about the delayed promotion at work, there is a child that has a bleak future unless you intervene with kindness. Remember that child that will never enjoy the warmth of a mother’s touch or her comforting words during scary moments.

The person you sit next to in the plane or train may be undergoing the stress and agony that accompanies divorce. After years of living together with another person and believing in ‘happily ever after’ sad reality suddenly dawns. That women or man could be a parent that does not understand what will happen to their children after divorce. Are you being kind enough to them?

Despite advanced medicine, we are witnessing more chronic and deadly diseases than ever before. There are countless people suffering from the physical and psychological effects of being HIV positive. Many of them have been rejected by their families and friends. They are regarded as outsiders. They are not welcome into social events as before. How kind are you to such people?

The cancer epidemic is devastating the world. The best medical care is unable to prevent people from contracting this dreaded illness. Somewhere in your neighbourhood, or in your family, there is someone undergoing radiation treatment or chemotherapy. The cost of these therapies and pertinent medicine is too high for some. Others have been transferred to hospices to spend their last days, secluded from society.

Is praying for them sufficient or you need to visit them and donate money or other materials for their treatment?


Recently, the world witnessed the unfortunate incident of a journalist in Eastern Europe who, instead of helping a refugee and his son to reach their intended destination safely, stuck out her leg and floored the poor guy and his son. How is that for kindness? We have become so callous that the suffering of other people fills some of us with joy. But how different are we from the camera lady?

We condemn refugees fleeing war in the Middle East without bothering to understand their predicaments?

 Are you giving enough kindness to your spouse or partner? This person expects you to understand them more than anybody else. They go to work and come home tired. They want to have a tasty meal and have a peaceful evening. It is possible that this person had a bad day at work. Some have quarreled with their bosses and workmates. Others messed up important processes and have been warned. What does such a person expect when they arrive home? A querulous partner? A demanding and nagging spouse?

Some parents are also not kind to their children. Not all children will bring excellent grades all the time. Sometimes the grades will fluctuate. Unfortunately, some parents are harsh and even violent to children who seem not to perform well in school. Quarrelling the child and threatening them will only worsen the situation. This child needs a parent who will listen and understand. After all, if someone went behind the scene and checked your performance at the same grade as your child, you may have no moral authority to question their performance!

There are many examples that one can cite of situations when you need to exercise more kindness. Always remember that you can be the person in need of kindness in the examples we have cited. It is for your own good that you learn to be kind to other people, whether you know them or you don’t. You may ignore that old man who cannot cross the road by himself, but sooner or later, you will be in a similar position.

Need I remind you that karma is a bitch?


Cultivate kindness while remembering that the universe is one. We are interconnected. No one is independent of the other. Fate and destiny are real. Whatever good or evil you do to others will eventually come back to you. You have a free will but you must exercise it in doing good to others. Our life on earth is transient. Today you are here but tomorrow you will be gone. Do good such that those who remain will have a good reason to remember you.

You don’t need to have a lot of money to exercise kindness that impacts others powerfully. Kindness can become an effortless attitude when you begin to embrace it. Find people in your family, neighborhood and society who need your help. Some of the items you don’t need any more could be precious to others. That sweet and comforting speech you are keeping in your heart could gladden the heart of another person.

Cultivate kindness while remembering that the universe is one. We are interconnected. No one is independent of the other. Fate and destiny are real. Whatever good or evil you do to others will eventually come back to you. You have a free will but you must exercise it in doing good to others. Our life on earth is transient. Today you are here but tomorrow you will be gone. Do good such that those who remain will have a good reason to remember you.

You don’t need to have a lot of money to exercise kindness that impacts others powerfully. Kindness can become an effortless attitude when you begin to embrace it. Find people in your family, neighborhood and society who need your help. Some of the items you don’t need any more could be precious to others. That sweet and comforting speech you are keeping in your heart could gladden the heart of another person.

Whatever you do, endeavour to be kinder through you actions and words, for your kindness will come back to you in equal measure when you need it most, and that could be soon.

With Love,

Your Grace Guru



Q&A – All About Love

Love makes the world move around, or so I have been taught to believe. What will people not do for love? Kill they will, without any remorse. Rob they will, with untold savagery. We can even hate other people if those we think we love ask us to do so. How many battles have been fought over love? How many people have died because of love?

With all the research that has gone into multiple disciplines of academia and the respective books that have emerged, no discipline has surpassed love in terms of literature. Volumes and volumes, including religious books, have been penciled in honour of love. Poets appear never to run out of words to express romance and other forms of love.

Sometimes I am getting tired of the musicians who harass my ears with loads and loads of love messages. I know you love Valentines Day and the mass murder of flowers that accompanies the day. I often marvel at the rate of divorce among those who sing to us about love yet they do not understand what love is. Well, when you analyse love in modern society, you may be tempted to think it is a commodity that one can easily purchase in the market.

Loved Naturally?

But have you ever wondered why some people seem to be loved by a wide cross section of the society even when the object of love does little or nothing directly to influence this trend? Welcome to the world of magnetic love, where people radiate warmth and passion to the extent of being irresistible. I am not talking about the Casanova who manages to take every woman to bed on the first date and dumps them like used diapers. I am thinking of the kind of people who ooze love; those that don’t need to move an inch to be hugged or kissed.

You obviously know such people. Chances are you are jealous of them because you don’t seem to understand why they are loved when in your opinion they don’t deserve it! I have good news for you. You also can become a magnet of love through learning. I know you are wondering how this is possible considering your last encounter with a woman or a man who rejected you. Anyway, it is all about understanding yourself and other people.

The Human Need for Love

From the moment you are born, you are surrounded with love. For most parents, the best gift they can ever receive is the birth of a child. There is nothing a mother cannot do to save her child from harm. The story continues throughout life.

Parents work hard to show love to their children. For the sake of a child, you will invest and save to give your loved one a better future. No effort is spared to ensure that one’s child gets the best opportunities in life. Moreover, you kiss and hug them; you hold them in your hands and ensure everybody knows they belong to you.

The human desire to be loved is the reason we attend weddings and get married. We want someone to live with and share life together. You want a person you can play and cry with; someone you can be yourself with. It’s no wonder that some of us become jealous and possessive.

Have you observed how we extend love to pets? Even an animal understands the need to love and be loved. That cat does not curl itself around you simply to feel warm. Your dog does not welcome you so well simply because it wants some bones. It is all about love. Everyone wants to feel loved and this is why you need to be a magnet of love.

Never-Ending Questions About Love

Having been accustomed to love, rejection comes as a shock to you when you experience it first. How dare she or he reject me? People go to all lengths to find answers to the question of rejection and the fact that others seem not to struggle to find love. Surprisingly, even the not-so-beautiful may find love and acceptance before you.

I want to challenge you to take time and study the character and mannerisms of the person you consider to be loved by everyone and you will realize something about him or her. They don’t have to pretend or show off for them to be loved or accepted. It comes naturally. It is innate. They appear to radiate love the way the sun spreads its warmth. Your jealousy aside, you have to admit that you also like such people!

Would you love to be a love magnet? Do you want to be the center of attraction for good reason? Do you want to be the kind of person everyone wants to be around? To be magnetic, you don’t need to spend a dime. It is more than living a luxurious life and giving expensive gifts to people to love you. Here are a few recommendations to turn you into a love magnet today:

  1. Learn to Love Yourself First!

It all begins with you. Nobody will love you as much as you love yourself. To put it differently and in a blunter manner, nobody loves those who hate themselves. Begin by appreciating yourself. Discover the rich potential within you by understanding your strength and emphasising on them. Write down the qualities that make you unique. Talk to your friends and ask them what they find to be your areas of strength. Keep this list and refer to it regularly.

People who love and appreciate themselves become magnets of love. They grow confident thus attracting others who feel they need a share of that confidence. Vibrations of love go in and out, impacting the giver and the receiver and creating a sense of mutuality. Like attracts like; the more confidence and love you exude the more people of comparable characteristics you will attract, hence becoming a love magnet. Now you can understand why you don’t need to strive to make people love you.

  1. Be Generous With Your Blessings

Suppose you were a real magnet and the rest of us were metallic in nature, how would we connect to each other? Through magnetic waves, you say. Now look at yourself and realize that you have a lot of great treasures that other people can get from you. We only know your soul through your appearance and attitude towards others. People cannot read your motives or see your heart but they can judge you through your attitude towards others.

Smile more often. Have you ever met a person who resists a smile? Extend your helping hand to others. Reach out to the underprivileged in society. Be the shoulder that your friends cry on when misfortunes befall them. Be there when people need you even when you have no material things to offer. Speak in a manner that edifies you listeners. Be the person who motivates and encourages others. You will never lack the opportunity to do so considering the rate at which human beings experience misfortune. You will be shocked at how fast you will become an irresistible force for love.

  1. Be Thankful!

If you are sincere with yourself, you know that you love being in the company of people who are optimistic and grateful for what they have. Nobody wants to be in a polluted environment where gloom and despondency are transmitted. If you want to be a magnet of love, you must learn to be thankful for all that you have. People are drawn to optimistic people like a moth is attracted to light.

Teach people around you to appreciate what they have. Show them that using what they already have they can climb to higher levels of prosperity. Demonstrate to them that the present is the only reality they have and that they need to enjoy it. As you deliberately appreciate gratefulness, others within your frequency will find their way to you effortlessly.

  1. Let Fear Go!

Human nature is such that we fear being hurt. Consequently, we fear opening up our hearts to people we think might hurts us. But that is not always the case. To be a love magnet, you must appreciate the wonderful elements in each living thing. You must learn to appreciate people the way they are and let go feelings of rejection.

As you accept people they way they are they will reciprocate in a similar manner. Do not hold on to past relationships that did not go well with you. If you have friends who want to leave your life, release them with an open heart and thank them for the time you spent together and the blessings they brought your way. Do not fear to be hurt. Instead, treat every disappointment as an opportunity to learn. If you harbour feelings of regret and hate, people will run away from you instead of being attracted to you.

Important Issues To Remember

    1. Every human being wants to be loved and appreciated and this is where being a love magnet begins.
    2. Being a love magnet is not hard. What is crucial is to position yourself to attract people by simply being good to them.
    3. If you are passionate about love and you radiate the same, like-minded people will find you irresistible.
    4. Relationships are opportunities to grow, not to shrink. Learning from broken relationships that humanity still retains a lot that is good and beneficial makes you a magnet.
    5. You are a unique human being, possessing qualities that others don’t have. Maximize on your uniqueness to become a magnet.
    6. Discover your passion and exploit it for the benefit of others and yourself.
    7. No human being resists genuine and beneficial passion. Use yours productively today.
    8. Magnets attract metals. You stand to gain individually when you become a love magnet because you will only attract people of value in your life.
    9. Being grateful has the magical quality of bringing more blessings into your life including like-minded people.
    10. You can begin the process of becoming a love magnet today irrespective of how detestable you have been in the past.

With love,

Your Grace Guru




Take Control And Say Bye To Stress Today!

One of the most common phenomena in human life is stress. No human being is immune to stress. Experts say that some level of stress in life is necessary. However, when stress builds up to unmanageable levels, it can result in sickness or senseless or even violent behaviour. It is therefore necessary that you become aware of the presence and role of stress in your life, as well as strategies that you can use to overcome it.

Let us look at some of the triggers of stress in your life. Imagine you have had a bad day at work, with your boss harassing you when you know very well you did not commit any mistake. On the way home, your car decides to break down right in the middle of the highway. It takes time before you get a breakdown service to tow your car to the garage. By the time you reach home, it is already late and your spouse will hear none of the reasons you are giving.

The night is long. Since you skipped food, your stomach begins to rumble in the middle of the night. You cannot sleep because your boss wants a solution to the problem you had during the day. The dogs in the neighbourhood decide the will hold a barking competition this very night. Just as sleep begins to invade your territory, that annoying neighbour begins to play loud music. As you reach out for headphones to save yourself from this new form of terrorism, your clock alarm rings to remind you it is time to wake up – or is it to just rise from the bed?

By the time you reach your workplace, you feel like the world is completely on top of your head. The first person you meet will be lucky if you greet them. They might even escape with a few scratches. The entire day will be punctuated by irritability, conflict and mistakes in your work. At the end of the day, if nothing is done, you will arrive home spoiling for a fight with everybody. That is what stress does to you.

Fortunately or unfortunately, you may not even be aware that you are stressed. Many of us think they are having a normal day. Isn’t conflict part of life? Are people not created differently and likely to clash? What we do not know is that something is eating us up inside. Sooner or later the small problems we ignored begin to grow and become a river of stress and internal conflict that we cannot stop. Stress management is the solution but stress awareness is the beginning point.

How Do You Know You Are Stressed?Look Out For The Following Stress Indicators!!

  • Your blood pressure increases uncharacteristically.
  • Blood sugar increases, and this is dangerous if you are suffering from diabetes.
  • Your heart begins to beat faster than normal.
  • Food takes longer to digest – you are likely to have constipation.
  • Your sex drive takes a nose dive.
  • You become irritable and likely to get into clashes with people around you.
  • You lose concentration and begin to multi-task without accomplishing anything in particular.
  • Your immunity decreases and you begin to suffer from colds and other illnesses.

These 15 Practices Will Help To Relieve & Manage Stress Or Anxiety!!

  1. Meditation: This practice brings relief, peace and contentment to the body, mind and soul.
  2. Take a walk: Take time to walk through the woods, along riverbanks and lake shores.
  3. Sleep: Practice sleeping in a dark room for about eight hours daily.
  4. Massage: Have somebody perform body massage on you to relax your muscles.
  5. Music: Listen to your favorite, soothing music.
  6. Sports: Engage in a favorite sport with friends.
  7. Humour: Watch a television program or attend live comedy performances.
  8. Visualisation: Practice visualizing positive images that you would want to see in your life.
  9. Diet: Eat more fruits and vegetables and drink a lot of water while minimising on starches.
  10. Beverages: Avoid caffeinated drinks, carbonated beverages and illegal substances.
  11. Rest: Take time off your busy schedule to visit a quiet place where you can relax.
  12. Family time: Don’t take office work home; instead give time to your family.
  13. Yoga: This is an established exercise regime for rejuvenating the body and mind.
  14. Charity: Find a way to bring relief into the lives of less-privileged people.
  15. Aromatherapy: Internal and external use of aromatic herbs will bring relief.


With Love,

Your Grace Guru



Better Your Life – Stop Being A Busy Bee!

In the quest for a better life, people hustle every day. It appears to be a virtue and a reason to rejoice for you to be busy throughout your life. Busyness has become the norm to the extent that we think it is mandatory to be engaged in some kind of activity all the time. But is that really true?

Understandably, in a world where economic conditions do not favour the majority, those who idle around or want to live on the generosity of others or the state are frowned upon. You and I know people who have two or three jobs. Such individuals sleep for a few hours as they try to get as much money as possible to make ends meet. But is that the ideal life?

I want to suggest that none of us likes being so busy that we fail to enjoy even the money we work so hard to earn. Busyness is not what many of us want to portray it to be – a virtue and something to be proud about. We do it out of necessity.

Reversing the ‘Busyness’ Trend

Did you know it is possible to earn a living, start living and still avoid glorifying busyness? Here’s how:

  1. Living in the Present

Being busy does not negate the fact that you have a real life that encompasses family, friends, interaction, pastimes and challenges. Your family, friends and community need you and you need them equally. Life is not all about working ceaselessly. You must create time for people and institutions that encourage and motivate you through your daily struggles and challenges.

Living in the presence means that you recognise the roles other people play in your life. It implies reaching out to your children, partner and other relatives in mutual support. It means participating in the life of your community and reaching out to the less fortunate. None of these ideals can be achieved when you are engaged in endless activity.

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  1. Avoid Multi-tasking

I once heard that women are better at multitasking than men. I used to consider multitasking a virtue – not any more. You and I know mothers who spend time on social media when they return home after a busy day. This despite the fact that the parent has been away at work most of the day; the kids were in school, and the only time they have to interact is spent by the parent surfing the internet.

Next time you go to a restaurant, take time to observe what people on the same table, who came together to socialize, are doing. More time is spent looking one’s phone as opposed to talking with each other. Multitasking is a form of busyness and it is killing relationships at a very high rate. Why not set the phone aside and look at your partner as you engage in productive communication?

Me and my friends have set up kind of a rule, we don’t put our mobile phones on the table when having breakfast, lunch or dinners together. Only if there is something urgent and we expect an important call. It is really important that we spend a good time together and connect with each other!

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  1. Remember to Attend to Yourself

Being busy most of the time robs you of the most important person – yourself. I really don’t know what exactly people mean when they tell one another to take care. Is it about security or body hygiene? What is clear, though, is that unless you attend to yourself you will soon lose the steam and health to be busy.

Those who own cars understand the importance of fueling and regular service. Why then do we forget to take care of the very body, mind and soul that make our busyness possible? Take time off and spend it with yourself, you will discover so much. Pamper the body by eating a balanced diet and exercising. Look for the best lotions and perfumes to moisten your skin. Never forget to meditate and connect spiritually with the Supreme Being and your fellow beings.

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  1. Delegate Tasks

At the risk of appearing to be delivering an academic lecture, allow me to remind you that you are not everything in this world. Your company needs you but you are not indispensable. The institution you work for was there before you and will continue to operate the day after you are laid to rest at the cemetery. In essence, life can and will go on without you. Your busyness will not save you from the fact that time a time will come when you will have to exit.

Learn to share out tasks instead of attempting to do everything yourself. There are many other employees working under you or with you who have the same or similar responsibilities. Younger workers also need to learn how to perform the tasks you are carrying out. Hallo? There is something called succession management! Even in your own business, your children need to learn so that they can take over when you are too old to work or when your turn comes to join your ancestors in the next world.

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Before you become a workaholic with no social life, remember the following:

  1. You cannot carry the entire world on your shoulder. Busyness will not help you to solve all the problems of an organisation or family.
  2. Your body has a limit. It cannot work forever and regular periods of rest are necessary for you to operate maximally the following day.
  3. You are a social animal. You need others and they need you. Being busy is akin to severing a limb from your body.
  4. Busyness exhausts your body and the more you work in this state, the less productive you become.

  1. Your life is more important than material belongings. What you need is a sense of belonging to a family or community. Busyness is vanity.
  2. When your history is written, you will be remembered for what you did to change peoples’ lives and not how much money you earned.
  3. You are part of a community. You are either an asset or a liability. The best way to become an asset is to participate in communal events.
  4. Stop glorifying busyness. Don’t talk about being busy as if it is winning a billion dollar lottery.
  5. Develop a program for your life and determine to have more time for yourself, your family and the community.
  6. Remember you only live once and there will be no rehearsal. Don’t wait for the time you will be less busy to take care of other important matters because that time will never come.

I did struggle with being very busy especially when I just started my business 10 years ago. I was and still am very ambitious, but I forgot and didn’t know about how to take care of my body, spirit and mind at the time. But after a while, when loosing the control, social life and not paying attention to my family, thanks god I have reacted and started looking for how to balance it all. Today I must say meditation and taking time off for myself and with friends/family is great benefit for me and everyone who is around myself to! I can proudly say that!

With love,

Your Grace Guru