I grew up listening to the cliché, “behind every successful man is a woman.” You and I have heard it repeated countless times, especially when a successful male entrepreneur, political leader or professional are being honoured. The woman gets a mention for her support for her man. But it is just that – a mention.
Have you ever taken time to ask yourself whether the wife, girlfriend or lover of a successful man is also successful? If we phrased the threadbare statement the other way round would it still be valid and acceptable to society? This is what I mean: Behind every successful woman is a man.
I guess you will have a problem agreeing with this statement especially if you consider the history behind successful women you know. Very few, if any, successful women can attribute their prosperity to men. I want to state this from the onset because I intend to discuss other approaches to success for a woman with no man involved, at least not significantly.
Tested and proven strategies that bring success to a woman…
The approaches I will suggest here are not silver bullets towards success for a woman. They will not yield success overnight. Do not expect that you will miraculously wake up successful simply because you followed what I am proposing in this article.
I have endeavoured to study successful women and to come up with the principles that most of them used to arrive at their current statuses. There is no particular formula or way of succeeding. How you mix and match these principles is largely dependent on you and you alone.
These principles have been used by women entrepreneurs, actresses, musicians, talk show hosts, TV personalities, sportswomen, politicians, academicians and women in all careers you know of. Each of them has found success in their own ways.
Here are 12 crucial principles that result in success for a woman:
1. Meditate Regularly
It is unfortunate that many of us associate meditation with yoga and conclude that because we are not Indians or Buddhists, meditation is not our thing. What many women do not know is that meditation is not a preserve of any religion. Anyone can and should meditate.
Most successful women have regular meditation sessions. They take time to connect with their inner self. When you meditate, you take time off from your daily activities, create some quiet time, and imbibe positive energy.
Make meditation part of your life. That is what you need to interact effectively with colleagues, customers, your boss and family members. Further, after a hard day’s work, you need to tap into your inner reserves to get the energy you need to work on other projects.
Take One Day At A Time
Success for a woman comes after a hard day’s work. There is no genuine success that will come your way of you don’t work for it. It is crucial therefore that you take every day as it comes. The trouble of a single day is enough for that day. Why try to deal with yesterday or tomorrow on the present day?
Plan your day and handle what is humanly possible. That is what success for a woman entails. Remember there is that child waiting for you at home, or there will be at some point. Juggling between your family, career and societal demands is challenging, but if you want to be successful, you must live one day at a time.
Adapt To Situations
Success for a woman means getting into many situations that demand different attitudes and reactions. Such situations arise at work, at home, in business negotiations, in the social scene and so on. How will you balance different situations?
To be regarded as a successful woman you must be ready to face the good days as well as the bad ones. The mark of a great woman is the ability to come out happy and triumphant at the end of whatever situations you are facing.
Learn To Shift Your Mental Focus
Success for a woman requires a lot of deliberate mental effort. For example, what happens when there are unpleasant issues confronting you and you feel you cannot get rid of them? Remember if you had a bad day at home it is possible to come with those feelings to work and project them on others.
The solution lies in shifting your thoughts to something pleasant. It is not an easy task, but it is necessary. Even when unpleasant thoughts invade your mind at night think about the things that make you happy e.g. your children, travel or shopping. Concentrate on your previous success to find motivation for current challenges.
When pursuing success, it is possible for a woman to forget that she is just human. Many times, a woman chews more than she can swallow. The multiplicity of tasks and roles that must be accomplished can befuddle you to the point of losing focus. The temptation to multitask is high.
Successful women know how to prioritize. After all, you have only 24 hours to perform your tasks and almost a third of this time will be spent sleeping. The best strategy in this case is to prioritize. List all the tasks that you have to do and rate them in order of importance and urgency. Do not let what you can do tomorrow affect what needs to be done today if you want to be a successful woman.
Excel At What You Do
Success for a woman comes through excellent performance. I am not talking about perfection, but doing your best in whatever you do. In a world where women are considered inferior to men in many societies, nothing beats a woman who knows her trade and accomplishes with the highest level of expertise.
The best strategy to overcome negative comments and reactions to your roles and position as a woman is to work diligently and deliver quality services and products in whatever you are tasked to do. People will respect you for your accomplishments and will find it hard to find excuses to discriminate against you.
Watch What You Eat
You are what you eat. I know you have heard this so many times before that you wonder why I have to repeat it here. The question is: do you believe you are what you eat? There is an obesity epidemic and many women are practically disabled or are at the risk of imminent death because of poor eating habits.
Success for a woman demands that she eats a balanced diet. Kindly discard those sweet but nutrient-deficient fries from your diet. Those hamburgers, soft drinks and salty foods that you eat in excess are not the diet of successful women. You need to have a healthy body to function optimally, and it starts with your choice of diet and the times you when you take your meals.
The modern successful woman is confronted by a unique but delicate situation. Our foremothers (is there is anything like that) worked in farms or performed manual duties while their husbands went out to look for food and other necessities. Today, the workplace is more of a stationary desk with a computer where almost all transactions are carried out. The proliferation of lifestyle diseases is the dreadful repercussion of this lifestyle.
Success for a woman means not only eating well but also exercising the body. You need to go out and practice yoga or run regularly. Alternatively, you can attend a gym and exercise under the guidance of a fitness trainer. Endeavor to stretch out your body and overcome excess weight / fat. Working out rejuvenates your body and mind while nourishing your skin and making it look younger and healthier.
Don’t Try To Please Everyone
Bill Cosby, the great American comedian was once asked to give his secret of success. He retorted that he did not know the secret of success but he knew the one for failure. “The secret of failure is trying to please everybody,” he said. That is timeless wisdom on having your own principles and adhering to them.
Successful women set their goals and set out to achieve them. They do not bother doing what others want. Remember you cannot please everybody because everyone will want you to meet a different set of expectations. You will end up not pleasing anybody and will create more enemies.
Listen To Critics To Know Where To Improve
Do you get exasperated by people talking negatively about you and wonder when they will stop? Yes, they will, but that will be when they have bid your farewell as you transit to the next world. Successful women know that people must talk about them and a great chunk of what is said will be negative.
Your work is not to bother with the negatives. Rather, listen to what is being said with an eye for improvement. People don’t discuss issues or objects that have no significance. The fact that they are talking about you is enough evidence that you have impacted their lives. Gather what is important from their criticism and find ways to incorporate it in your plans without informing them.
Watch Less TV
You might be wondering what is wrong with me or what my problem is with TV. You may be the type of woman that cannot do without a soap opera or that addictive movie series. Probably you are the political type that must watch news and political analyses without fail. But have you ever wondered what value TV has in your life.
The most successful women list TV as a non-priority. Instead of spending the entire day watching other people acting and making money, successful women engage in other productive pastimes. For example, they read inspirational books or those that relate to their professions. Leave TV to the average achiever or non-achiever. Live such that you can be the subject of a TV program, not the viewer.
Keep A Circle Of Genuine Friends
You are a human being and human touch is very important for your success. You need to have a circle of genuine friends in all spheres of your life, be it professional or social. You need people who can listen to you, offer advice, critique you constructively or simply be there for you.
To be successful, you need people who feel you. They must be people who share your ideals. I am not just talking about your family. You need more than that. This circle of friends will keep you motivated and informed. Successful women do not succeed alone. I need to conclude by saying that behind every successful woman are these twelve principles and especially a clique of genuine friends.
Your Grace Guru