Balance Your Hormones Naturally!

The human body is a complex system. A lot of activities and changes happen every second in your body. If you were to feel and react to all of them, you would be a very miserable human being. One of most fascinating aspects of our bodies is the functioning of hormones.

I know women who would rather not discuss hormones. I am talking about women in reproductive ages who experience painful cramps and mood swings among other complications. There are also those who endure night sweats, weight gain, hot flushes and mood swings when in the premenopausal stage. In the first case, experts explain that these are symptoms of PMS or premenstrual syndrome. The painful symptoms results from imbalances in the levels of progesterone and oestrogen.

Now you understand why Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) is popular with women. The fascination with HRT owes to the fact that you don’t want to experience pain when you can control or avoid it. It does not matter that this pain may be as a result of natural biological processes. If it can be controlled, then you will go to all lengths to do so. You must understand also that no woman wants to spend painful days away from work and the public.

A Natural Method?

It is important to understand that women often spend a lot of money buying various medicines to ease the pain occasioned by natural reactions of various hormones. This is not only applicable in PMS. Even women in menopause are forced to invest in HRT to make sure their levels of progesterone, oestrogen or testosterone are optimal.

However, HRT has proved to be not only expensive but also detrimental to many women. In essence, while it helps to effectively manage painful symptoms, these benefits cannot compensate for the repercussions. This is evident from recent studies involving HRT drugs. Consequently, you may be asking whether there are natural ways of balancing your hormones without causing you so much pain.

How About Bio-Identical Hormones?

These are hormones that are manufactured in labs and which have the same molecular structure as natural hormones secreted in your body. Bio-identical hormones are made from yams and soy extracts. Although they are gaining popularity there is no scientific evidence to suggest they are better than conventional HRT.

Natural Therapies For Hormone Replacement

If HRT works for you and you have no other method of dealing with painful PMS or menopausal symptoms, do not discard it. However, there is strong and tried evidence that an Ayurvedic approach can rebalance your hormones and reduce or eliminate your need for pharmaceutical therapies such as HRT.

According to this approach, instead of dealing with the symptoms only, you need to address the underlying causes of your PMS or menopausal pain. In fact, your pain presents an opportunity for you to deal with spiritual and life implications, even as you transition from one physiological stage to the other.

A Strategy For Balancing Your Hormones Naturally:

  1. Eating foods rich in indole-3-carbinol (I3C), particularly broccoli, bok choy, cabbage, cauliflower, Brussels and kohlrabi. Once these foods are metabolised they produce dindolylmethane (DIM), which helps to regulate oestrogen and also fights breast cancer.

Assortment of cabbages

  1. Eating foods with phytoestrogens such as flax and sunflower seeds, soy products, legumes and bean sprouts. Phytoestrogens are effective in balancing hormones in your body naturally.
  1. Making use of herbal medicine:, an Ayurvedic herb, for example, is very effective in dealing with the moods swings and irritability caused by PMS as well as the hot flashes of menopause. You can also use herbal therapies to overcome other psychological and physical symptoms of these stages. It is important, though, to consult and expert before adopting herbal therapies for your health complications.

Herbal Medicine

  1. Managing your weight: When your body has healthy weight it will not overproduce oestrogen. This happens especially when surplus adipose tissue plays the role of an endocrine gland.
  1. Practice deep breathing: You can ease the effects of night sweats and hot flashes and enhance your general wellbeing by engaging in about 15 minutes of breathing from your belly. This method has been proved to work through clinical trials.

Woman breathing deep fresh air in the morning sunrise

  1. Practice meditation: Train yourself to perform primordial sound mediation and other techniques that calm the mind as this will lessen stress hormones and make your body to work in a more efficient manner.

Business Woman Doing Yoga Lotus Position Outside Office Building

If HRT has not worked for you it is time to adopt natural therapies. This applies also to everybody else who feels that HRT is not safe in the long run. Check your diet, engage in physical activity, manage stress and consult your physician regularly as this will help to balance your hormones naturally and with little expense.

At a glance:

  1. Hormone Replacement Therapy has been used for many years to deal with hormonal imbalances in menopausal and PMS women for many years.
  2. The pains and inconveniences experienced by women during these crucial stages in their lives necessitate drastic measures.
  3. HRT is used to balance the levels of progesterone, oestrogen or testosterone in your body and thus bring relief to your body.
  4. However, HRT has been proved to cause more pain than the relief it brings to some women. You are better off with an alternative therapy if you experience more pain than reprieve.
  5. The search for a natural strategy to balance your hormones is informed by the harmful side effects of HRT and the belief that a natural approach would bear more effective results.
  6. Bio-identical hormones have been fronted as a solution because of the manner in which they are manufactured and how they affect natural body hormones, but their effectiveness is comparable to that of HRT.
  7. Ayurvedic approach is holistic and advocates for physical, spiritual and physiological wellbeing by addressing the causes of PMS and menstrual symptoms.
  8. It advocates for eating foods phytoestrogens and indole-3-carbinol which are known to balance hormones in your body.
  9. You can also manage PMS and menstrual symptoms easily by maintaining healthy body weight and practicing deep breathing.
  10. Herbal therapies and meditation are also proven strategies for balancing your body hormones, with the later helping to deal with stress.


With love,

Your Grace Guru




Create A Major Life Change!

Deep inside each human being is the need for positive progress and change. You want to move from one step to another, especially in the direction you have identified to be the right one. Only then will you feel that life has any value for you.

The greatest obstacle, however, lies in our nature as humans. We are creatures of habits and breaking a habit can be challenging. We often get so accustomed to certain ways of doing things that we create comfort zones. When the time to change comes, we resist it because we want to remain in our little cocoons of comfort.

How then can you ensure that you embrace a major change in your life?

  1. Have a Vision

The Good Book that Christians use for doctrinal purposes holds that in the absence of a vision, people perish. A vision is some form of a mental image on what changes you want to see in your life. Every great achievement begins with an idea. Whatever your motivation for change, you need to clearly define your destination.

You cannot realize any major change in your life when your vision is hazy. Exactly where do you want to be in terms of your career in the next two years? What is your preferred relationship status and by when should you have achieved it? Of course your vision must be SMART (specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and time-bound).

  1. Create An Actionable Plan To Back Your Vision

A vision will remain a mere statement unless it is backed by a viable plan. To create a major life change, you need to gather information towards making your vision a reality. You may want to borrow strategic planning concepts and plans from organisational settings. Planning constitutes the direction you will take towards your destination (vision).

A good plan is SMART. Moreover, when planning for a major change in your life, you need to understand your strengths and weaknesses as well as the resources at your disposal. It is also important to make your intentions clear. Remember, though, that no plan is full-proof.

  1. Acknowledge What Holds You Back

When creating a major change in your life, it is crucial for you to look back at what has hampered you in the past. Habits are very strong and can keep your from your dreams. How many times have you tried to overcome your addiction to drugs or porn? How many times did you vow never to engage in a negative habit only to revert to it the following day? Acknowledge and deal with the reasons that always thwart your plans to change.

A good example of factors that hinder progress for most individuals is peer pressure. I have seen people who enrol in fitness clubs to shed off excess weight leaving midway through their exercise regiments because their peers do not approve of such efforts. As part of your plan, devise strategies to deal with such people and habits.

  1. Have A Positive Attitude

Many people who want to see change rise or fall when it comes to attitude. Have you ever been told that all you need to shed excess weight is to exercise and eat well? While this is true, it is only so partly. Unless you have a winning mentality that believes your dream is possible, you are likely to fall along the way when challenges begin to emerge.

Physicians often remind us that most of the illnesses we think we are suffering from are simply mental illusions. You obviously have heard of the placebo effect, which illustrates that whatever we believe in works for us in most circumstances. Whatever change you need to see in your life must be informed by the vision you have.

  1. Involve Others

No man is an island, goes the famous cliché. That change you are looking for will impact someone else either positively or negatively. The best way to make sure you achieve your dreams and enjoy doing so is by involving significant people in your life during formation of the idea, planning and implementation.

Let’s take the example of a working mother who wants to advance her studies to get a promotion at work or to change careers. For her to attain this ideal, she needs the support of her employer, husband, children and other relatives. People who really value you will also encourage you along the way as you reach for the change you desire.

  1. Have Patience 

For any significant change to occur in your life, be ready for obstacles. Nothing good is attained when the waters are smooth. You might as well forget about the change you want if you are not willing to face and navigate rough waters. As they say, a ship at the harbour is safe but that is not what it was designed for.

Some of the challenges you need to handle will come from your own poor attitude and inherent weaknesses. Others will emanate from your family, workplace or even community. It is important to have your vision in mind and to remember you are doing this for yourself. You have to remain steadfast in the midst of obstacles.

  1. Review Your Progress

Finally, do not forget to sit back and review how far you have come. This should be on a regular basis. Monitoring and reviewing your progress is a sure way of ensuring you identify possible weaknesses and device strategies to overcome them before they run out of hand. Take time also to celebrate milestones as you move towards the change your desire.

If you are in the process of shedding excess weight, for example, you must weigh yourself regularly, preferably weekly, to know how well you are doing. Moreover, you need to discuss your progress or regress with your personal trainer to identify areas of weakness.


Points to Remember!

  1. Every major change comes at a cost. There can be no victory without sacrifice and sacrifice is by nature painful.
  2. Internalize the change you want to see by creating mental pictures and feeling the consequences of that change in your life even before you achieve it.
  3. Change cannot be achieved in a vacuum. People are key players in any change process. Ignore them at your own peril.
  4. Change begins with you and you must desire it so much so that you are willing to sacrifice your pleasures for some time to achieve what you want.
  5. Do not chew more than you can swallow. It would be a miracle for you to become a dollar millionaire in one month if you have no job currently and have no viable business idea you are working on.
  6. Having a spiritual dimension is important. Whatever you subscribe to as the Higher Being, ensure you involve it in your plans.
  7. Study the experiences of others to get inspired. Talk to people who have undergone momentous but deliberate transformation. Watch them on TV or read their stories for motivation.
  8. Listen to your inner voice. Whether you are planning or implementing, never forget to listen to your heart. It is rarely wrong. If it says that you change, do it.
  9. The naysayers will always be watching you, waiting for your downfall. Remain true to your vision and plan.
  10. Celebrate when you create that major change in your life. Reward yourself. Remember current triumphs will motivate you to set higher goals and achieve them.

With love,

Your Grace Guru



The Importance Of Getting Your 8 Hours!

I am sure you already know all that stuff about how important sleep is for your health? But I think a little reminder is always good!

Its not a secret, that if you like to feel much more harmonised, happy and balanced, to be energised and to loose some extra weight in a quick period of time but on a regular basis! The only thing you need to do is to get a solid average 8 hour sleep everyday! You can schedule a short afternoon nap too if your like me and love your sleep! There is even more to come from having an amazing sleep – you can regulate your hormones, metabolism and make all your organs work much more productively with an extra bonus of boosting your immunity and be in a good mood!

When we sleep our brain and organs help to heal itself, as well as the cell reproduction, regeneration and even production of immune cells reach their highest point! A Healthy brain needs a good sleep!

All the busy bees work so hard during the week and sleep of an average 6 1/2 hours thinking they can really catch up during the weekends? One mistake is that during the weekend we go out and end up going to sleep even later then during the week, if you drink some alcohol, it will kill your sleep even more!
Yes it is true we fall a sleep very fast but during the night we wake up a lot and its not that long deep restful sleep what we like to call it! So catching up during weekend does not count, you need a regular everyday sleep!

Drinking lots of espressos and caffeine during the day will not fix it or improve your energy! I love coffee and the taste of espresso, but not because I need to wake up, well most of the time not, we all have the odd day!

If you don’t sleep enough it will just make you feel so overwhelmed with everything, sluggish, irritable, depressed and you will be overweight as your appetite will be increased and so the food intake increases! Why?! Because if you don’t get enough sleep cortisone and Ghrelin (this is the hormone that increases appetite) are going to be rapidly producing. Yep! This is the truth, i know you all didn’t want to hear it but here it is! so just in case….from cortisone we gain weight! Just in case if you didn’t hear that before haha?

With Love,

Your Grace Guru



How Healers Cast Their Magic

Even those of used who are blessed with good health can feel unbalanced at times, whether that’s from busy schedules, travelling, unhealthy eating, jet leg travelling or the everyday pressures of life.

It’s important that we don’t allow seemingly manageable sources of tension to build up, as that’s when our emotional and physical energy levels dip and good health is replaced with stress, tiredness, migraines and even depression. So if your emotional and physical energy levels are really low it will reflect on your health trust me!

What we really need is to create harmony between our mind, body and soul… Take better care of ourselves! And most of us will have an excuse… “No time” Therefore, when it’s not possible to jet off for a few days of relaxation, indulge in a quick recharge with a visit to a healer.

Why To See A Healer

A healer uses positive cosmic energy to heal many different problems by clean negative aura (atmosphere that surrounds our body) and open our chakra channels (seven centres of spiritual power in the human body).

Healers use the power of thought and energy to help guide you – they can help you with the first steps to balancing energy and help you to feel calm.

I am not talking about magic healers that claim to use spells to bring back an ex or to create a successful business! My advice is, don’t ever get involved with magic, it will turn against you in a bad, bad way!

What Do You Feel?

You may not immediately feel a difference after the first session, although it all depends how “blocked” you are. It’s always good to take a few healing sessions to start seeing results.

Some people feel warm energy from the hands of the healer, some people see bright colourful lights when closing their eyes and some just feel relaxed, switch off and fall asleep. 

My first experience was very interesting! I went to see a female healer in London who worked with energy and helped to open blocked chakras.

The only thing I had to do was lay down on a massage table and close my eyes, as she worked her hands over my body, moving the energy up and down, side to side (I could not see or feel the energy).

Beginning of the session I just could not lay still, I wanted to leap off the table and run away. As she touched me with very lightly with her fingertips over the main chakra points, I felt some tingling sometimes. My energy was all over the place and my thoughts were jumping around directionless, I could not calm down at all.

But slowly, my mind and body started to relax and become quieter, when suddenly she said ‘we are done for today!’

She explained to me where my blocks were and that she had opened all of my chakras and that it was normal that I would feel tired for the rest of the day. Her advice was, to take it easy and have an Epson salt bath in the evening.

The result was that I emerged calm and emotionally uplifted. The world was beautiful and despite being a control freak at that time, I was not worried about anything – I was cocooned in a feeling of safety.

I continued to visit the healer until I was calm and balanced enough to be in control of my self.

A Healer Can Help With:

  1. Overcoming depression
  2. Dealing with fear
  3. Balancing emotions
  4. Professional or personal stress
  5. Regular illness
  6. Finding the right path
  7. Being positive
  8. Letting go
  9. Unfulfilling activities or relationships
  10. Unblocking the energy flow

Find The Right Healer For You:

  • Ask for recommendations from family or friends.
  • The healer should charge you only for his/her time, not for the energy (energy is free in the universe)
  • Trust your intuition – you should feel comfortable with the healer, then your energy will respond.
  • A good healer will share his/her knowledge, so you can heal yourself too and get some good guidance.
  • Ask about his or her background and for how long and why he/she has been practicing.
  • What is the name of the practice and if he/she can describe it?
  • Look up reviews of their services on the internet!
  • A healer usually charges from £75 an hour – £250 for two hours.

The truth is, that we can heal ourselves and we all have the power to do so, we just need to believe in it and take the time to practice connecting with our inner self. Commit to daily meditation; take time for yourself and to check in with your spirit.

Most Healers Practice:

1. Reiki

2. Crystal Cleaning

3. Energy / Chakra balance

4. Acupuncture

5. Reflexology

6. Ayurveda

7. Quantum Touch

8. Singing Bowls Healing


With love,

Your Grace Guru



Take Control And Say Bye To Stress Today!

One of the most common phenomena in human life is stress. No human being is immune to stress. Experts say that some level of stress in life is necessary. However, when stress builds up to unmanageable levels, it can result in sickness or senseless or even violent behaviour. It is therefore necessary that you become aware of the presence and role of stress in your life, as well as strategies that you can use to overcome it.

Let us look at some of the triggers of stress in your life. Imagine you have had a bad day at work, with your boss harassing you when you know very well you did not commit any mistake. On the way home, your car decides to break down right in the middle of the highway. It takes time before you get a breakdown service to tow your car to the garage. By the time you reach home, it is already late and your spouse will hear none of the reasons you are giving.

The night is long. Since you skipped food, your stomach begins to rumble in the middle of the night. You cannot sleep because your boss wants a solution to the problem you had during the day. The dogs in the neighbourhood decide the will hold a barking competition this very night. Just as sleep begins to invade your territory, that annoying neighbour begins to play loud music. As you reach out for headphones to save yourself from this new form of terrorism, your clock alarm rings to remind you it is time to wake up – or is it to just rise from the bed?

By the time you reach your workplace, you feel like the world is completely on top of your head. The first person you meet will be lucky if you greet them. They might even escape with a few scratches. The entire day will be punctuated by irritability, conflict and mistakes in your work. At the end of the day, if nothing is done, you will arrive home spoiling for a fight with everybody. That is what stress does to you.

Fortunately or unfortunately, you may not even be aware that you are stressed. Many of us think they are having a normal day. Isn’t conflict part of life? Are people not created differently and likely to clash? What we do not know is that something is eating us up inside. Sooner or later the small problems we ignored begin to grow and become a river of stress and internal conflict that we cannot stop. Stress management is the solution but stress awareness is the beginning point.

How Do You Know You Are Stressed?Look Out For The Following Stress Indicators!!

  • Your blood pressure increases uncharacteristically.
  • Blood sugar increases, and this is dangerous if you are suffering from diabetes.
  • Your heart begins to beat faster than normal.
  • Food takes longer to digest – you are likely to have constipation.
  • Your sex drive takes a nose dive.
  • You become irritable and likely to get into clashes with people around you.
  • You lose concentration and begin to multi-task without accomplishing anything in particular.
  • Your immunity decreases and you begin to suffer from colds and other illnesses.

These 15 Practices Will Help To Relieve & Manage Stress Or Anxiety!!

  1. Meditation: This practice brings relief, peace and contentment to the body, mind and soul.
  2. Take a walk: Take time to walk through the woods, along riverbanks and lake shores.
  3. Sleep: Practice sleeping in a dark room for about eight hours daily.
  4. Massage: Have somebody perform body massage on you to relax your muscles.
  5. Music: Listen to your favorite, soothing music.
  6. Sports: Engage in a favorite sport with friends.
  7. Humour: Watch a television program or attend live comedy performances.
  8. Visualisation: Practice visualizing positive images that you would want to see in your life.
  9. Diet: Eat more fruits and vegetables and drink a lot of water while minimising on starches.
  10. Beverages: Avoid caffeinated drinks, carbonated beverages and illegal substances.
  11. Rest: Take time off your busy schedule to visit a quiet place where you can relax.
  12. Family time: Don’t take office work home; instead give time to your family.
  13. Yoga: This is an established exercise regime for rejuvenating the body and mind.
  14. Charity: Find a way to bring relief into the lives of less-privileged people.
  15. Aromatherapy: Internal and external use of aromatic herbs will bring relief.


With Love,

Your Grace Guru



BOOK REVIEW: “F * * k It, The Ultimate Spiritual Way” – John C. Parkin

Ironically perhaps, the author John C. Parkin is in the business of spirituality. He lives in Italy and manages a retreat centre there. Many are probably shocked by the title, but even more are probably intrigued and curious. Why would a spiritual and good man have something to do with this careless and gross urban expression, let alone advocate it?

The Purpose

Mr. Parkin is a modern-day spiritual adviser who offers general information in his attempt to provide help to those who seek emotional and spiritual equilibrium. A book can reach the mainstream of society, and the practical and easy means by which the healing techniques are done can apply to everyone. They can be fun and are laced with dark humour to add. The world is such a tense place, and a sense of balance within ourselves needs to be struck soon.

F**k It - Grace

What It’s Not

Fuck It: the ultimate spiritual way is not the ultimate eastern spiritual way. The expression is all western in the first place. It does not require as much time as traditional meditation does. Time after all, is an expensive commodity. Instead, the very simple and practical techniques can be looped into one’s daily routine without upsetting it.

The Principle

How does “fuck it” work? It works both ways: relax and release pain and tension, and energise. The book teaches you of letting go, of acceptance, of not giving a fuck, of giving up and knowing it’s ok. It is a shortcut to the long process of the eastern way, but gives results just the same. It takes away the tension over things that are hard to control at the very moment. But it can also bring in energy depending on how you say it. ☺

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Go get yourself and those you care about a copy now! This unconventional and therefore refreshing book is worthy of your time and money, if only because it is the first of its kind. No new language to learn, just two power-packed words.

With Love,

Your Grace Guru 



Why You Should Be Writing A Journal!

While no one has really proved why we have dreams when we sleep, I subscribe to the theory that it is, in part, the mind’s way of processing the huge collection of thoughts we accumulate in the day. It is a subconscious healing – a kind of cognitive reboot.

We can give our brain a helping hand and discover more about ourselves – our hopes, dreams and fears – by dedicating just a few minutes each day to writing a journal.

Instead of checking Twitter, reading work emails or gazing out of the window in spare moments, dedicate that time to transcribing your innermost thoughts – it will soon become like enjoying a favourite meal.


Why Write A Journal?

  • It is a healing process. By reflecting on the events of the day, we can train ourselves to avoid negativity and build on the positives.
  • It is important for decision-making. By taking time to analyse the issues of the day, we differentiate the causes from the effects and arrive at logical decisions that we are less likely to regret.
  • It has been proven to help reduce stress, increase self-esteem and help to deal with traumatic experiences – meaning you will learn to shout less at your family members, pets, utensils and the computer as you appreciate yourself!
  • Research has also shown that people who write journals have improved psychological wellbeing and stronger immune systems. Yes, a diary entry a day could keep the doctor away!
  • Do you often go to bed with thoughts running aimlessly through your mind? Writing a few down will help clear the day’s backlog, let you sleep sounder and begin tomorrow with confidence
  • A journal also helps to preserve memories for the future. Prepare to impress everyone with your uncanny ability to put a face to a name!
  • Gain motivation from certain sayings, quotes or snippets of advice? Record your favourites in a journal and reflect on them later.
  • It’s not uncommon to be awoken from a thrilling, vivid dream, full of inspiration, only for the feeling and memories of the dream to quickly fade. By adopting the habit of journal keeping, it will soon become second nature to quickly jot down magical ideas or inventive thoughts. This will ensure you don’t lose priceless wisdom on how to resolve all the world’s problems!

With Love,

Your Grace Guru



Success For A Woman 101

I grew up listening to the cliché, “behind every successful man is a woman.” You and I have heard it repeated countless times, especially when a successful male entrepreneur, political leader or professional are being honoured. The woman gets a mention for her support for her man. But it is just that – a mention.


Have you ever taken time to ask yourself whether the wife, girlfriend or lover of a successful man is also successful? If we phrased the threadbare statement the other way round would it still be valid and acceptable to society? This is what I mean: Behind every successful woman is a man.

I guess you will have a problem agreeing with this statement especially if you consider the history behind successful women you know. Very few, if any, successful women can attribute their prosperity to men. I want to state this from the onset because I intend to discuss other approaches to success for a woman with no man involved, at least not significantly.

Tested and proven strategies that bring success to a woman…

The approaches I will suggest here are not silver bullets towards success for a woman. They will not yield success overnight. Do not expect that you will miraculously wake up successful simply because you followed what I am proposing in this article.

I have endeavoured to study successful women and to come up with the principles that most of them used to arrive at their current statuses. There is no particular formula or way of succeeding. How you mix and match these principles is largely dependent on you and you alone.

These principles have been used by women entrepreneurs, actresses, musicians, talk show hosts, TV personalities, sportswomen, politicians, academicians and women in all careers you know of. Each of them has found success in their own ways.

 Here are 12 crucial principles that result in success for a woman:

1. Meditate Regularly

It is unfortunate that many of us associate meditation with yoga and conclude that because we are not Indians or Buddhists, meditation is not our thing. What many women do not know is that meditation is not a preserve of any religion. Anyone can and should meditate.

Most successful women have regular meditation sessions. They take time to connect with their inner self. When you meditate, you take time off from your daily activities, create some quiet time, and imbibe positive energy.

Make meditation part of your life. That is what you need to interact effectively with colleagues, customers, your boss and family members. Further, after a hard day’s work, you need to tap into your inner reserves to get the energy you need to work on other projects.

  1. Take One Day At A Time

Success for a woman comes after a hard day’s work. There is no genuine success that will come your way of you don’t work for it. It is crucial therefore that you take every day as it comes. The trouble of a single day is enough for that day. Why try to deal with yesterday or tomorrow on the present day?

Plan your day and handle what is humanly possible. That is what success for a woman entails. Remember there is that child waiting for you at home, or there will be at some point. Juggling between your family, career and societal demands is challenging, but if you want to be successful, you must live one day at a time.

  1. Adapt To Situations

Success for a woman means getting into many situations that demand different attitudes and reactions. Such situations arise at work, at home, in business negotiations, in the social scene and so on. How will you balance different situations?

To be regarded as a successful woman you must be ready to face the good days as well as the bad ones. The mark of a great woman is the ability to come out happy and triumphant at the end of whatever situations you are facing.

  1. Learn To Shift Your Mental Focus

Success for a woman requires a lot of deliberate mental effort. For example, what happens when there are unpleasant issues confronting you and you feel you cannot get rid of them? Remember if you had a bad day at home it is possible to come with those feelings to work and project them on others.

The solution lies in shifting your thoughts to something pleasant. It is not an easy task, but it is necessary. Even when unpleasant thoughts invade your mind at night think about the things that make you happy e.g. your children, travel or shopping. Concentrate on your previous success to find motivation for current challenges.

  1. Set Priorities

When pursuing success, it is possible for a woman to forget that she is just human. Many times, a woman chews more than she can swallow. The multiplicity of tasks and roles that must be accomplished can befuddle you to the point of losing focus. The temptation to multitask is high.

Successful women know how to prioritize. After all, you have only 24 hours to perform your tasks and almost a third of this time will be spent sleeping. The best strategy in this case is to prioritize. List all the tasks that you have to do and rate them in order of importance and urgency. Do not let what you can do tomorrow affect what needs to be done today if you want to be a successful woman.

  1. Excel At What You Do

Success for a woman comes through excellent performance. I am not talking about perfection, but doing your best in whatever you do. In a world where women are considered inferior to men in many societies, nothing beats a woman who knows her trade and accomplishes with the highest level of expertise.

The best strategy to overcome negative comments and reactions to your roles and position as a woman is to work diligently and deliver quality services and products in whatever you are tasked to do. People will respect you for your accomplishments and will find it hard to find excuses to discriminate against you.

  1. Watch What You Eat

You are what you eat. I know you have heard this so many times before that you wonder why I have to repeat it here. The question is: do you believe you are what you eat? There is an obesity epidemic and many women are practically disabled or are at the risk of imminent death because of poor eating habits.

Success for a woman demands that she eats a balanced diet. Kindly discard those sweet but nutrient-deficient fries from your diet. Those hamburgers, soft drinks and salty foods that you eat in excess are not the diet of successful women. You need to have a healthy body to function optimally, and it starts with your choice of diet and the times you when you take your meals.

  1. Exercise Regularly

The modern successful woman is confronted by a unique but delicate situation. Our foremothers (is there is anything like that) worked in farms or performed manual duties while their husbands went out to look for food and other necessities. Today, the workplace is more of a stationary desk with a computer where almost all transactions are carried out. The proliferation of lifestyle diseases is the dreadful repercussion of this lifestyle.

Success for a woman means not only eating well but also exercising the body. You need to go out and practice yoga or run regularly. Alternatively, you can attend a gym and exercise under the guidance of a fitness trainer. Endeavor to stretch out your body and overcome excess weight / fat. Working out rejuvenates your body and mind while nourishing your skin and making it look younger and healthier.

  1. Don’t Try To Please Everyone

Bill Cosby, the great American comedian was once asked to give his secret of success. He retorted that he did not know the secret of success but he knew the one for failure. “The secret of failure is trying to please everybody,” he said. That is timeless wisdom on having your own principles and adhering to them.

Successful women set their goals and set out to achieve them. They do not bother doing what others want. Remember you cannot please everybody because everyone will want you to meet a different set of expectations. You will end up not pleasing anybody and will create more enemies.

  1. Listen To Critics To Know Where To Improve

Do you get exasperated by people talking negatively about you and wonder when they will stop? Yes, they will, but that will be when they have bid your farewell as you transit to the next world. Successful women know that people must talk about them and a great chunk of what is said will be negative.

Your work is not to bother with the negatives. Rather, listen to what is being said with an eye for improvement. People don’t discuss issues or objects that have no significance. The fact that they are talking about you is enough evidence that you have impacted their lives. Gather what is important from their criticism and find ways to incorporate it in your plans without informing them.

  1. Watch Less TV

You might be wondering what is wrong with me or what my problem is with TV. You may be the type of woman that cannot do without a soap opera or that addictive movie series. Probably you are the political type that must watch news and political analyses without fail. But have you ever wondered what value TV has in your life.

The most successful women list TV as a non-priority. Instead of spending the entire day watching other people acting and making money, successful women engage in other productive pastimes. For example, they read inspirational books or those that relate to their professions. Leave TV to the average achiever or non-achiever. Live such that you can be the subject of a TV program, not the viewer.

  1. Keep A Circle Of Genuine Friends

You are a human being and human touch is very important for your success. You need to have a circle of genuine friends in all spheres of your life, be it professional or social. You need people who can listen to you, offer advice, critique you constructively or simply be there for you.

To be successful, you need people who feel you. They must be people who share your ideals. I am not just talking about your family. You need more than that. This circle of friends will keep you motivated and informed. Successful women do not succeed alone. I need to conclude by saying that behind every successful woman are these twelve principles and especially a clique of genuine friends.


With love,

Your Grace Guru