Are You Obsessed With Social Media?

Whenever the word ‘addiction’ or ‘obsession’ is mentioned, we associate it with negativity. We believe that people can only get addicted to cigarettes, harmful drugs or other obnoxious substances and behaviours. Is that why we don’t notice or acknowledge that we are addicted to social media sites?

Asking pertinent questions…

What are the symptoms of this addiction? Are there negative repercussions in such a scenario?

Addiction is addiction – the terminology notwithstanding

It is important to begin by stating that there is no difference between addiction to drugs, work or social media in terms of the disruptions these activities bring to life and how they affect the individual in question and those around him or her. That is why you should think twice before castigating that person who is sinking under the weight of cocaine, if you exhibit some of the symptoms we are about to discuss.


How to self-diagnose your social media addiction

The good thing about social media obsession is that you don’t need to sit before an expert and explain your symptoms for you to know you are hooked. You can do it yourself. Here’s how:

    1. You wake up in the morning and turn to your phone (incidentally it ‘sleeps’ under your pillow), turn on the internet and check whether there is anything you missed on FB while you were asleep.
    2. Your phone is connected to the internet while you spruce up to go leave your house because you don’t want to miss out on interesting posts that are trending in your Whatsup group.
    3. Breakfast is on the table but you have one eye on your phone going through all the stuff being shared in your group.
    4. You don’t forget to take a photo of your breakfast and display it or FB, Twitter or even Instagram just to show your friends and followers what you ate!
    5. You give live updates of everything happening in your life, tagging people to photos and videos and ensuring they know what you are dressed in. Even when you are bored and tired, you make sure the world knows it.

  • Every idle moment, including when you are in a bus or train, is used to make observations of people and funny events and to post images of what you come across.
  • You are on social media most of the time, visiting as many platforms as possible because you are on almost all the sites.
  • When your friends want to find you, they don’t need to call you or come to your office or home. You have a reputation of being online most of the day, even at odd hours, thus making it easy to locate you.
  • There is this game you are playing and you cannot resist reaching the next level; after all you are competing with many other people in your group and you want to have the bragging rights.
  • You are the selfie queen. Every time you meet with important people and some nobodies is time for a selfie, which you promptly post on social media and boast about the meeting the persons on the photo.


  • I don’t want to get into details of those who tweet while performing some vital duties in lavatories or those who are quick to get the details of some famous dead folks and giving breaking news of the death of such celebrities.

Why you should act!

This list is endless. What is important is that you realize that social media obsession is taking away precious time that you could use reading, discussing face-to-face with loved ones and consciously interacting with other people. It is unfortunate that you can spend more time with people you barely know or those who are far removed from you while neglecting those around you and who matter most to you.

Eventually you will begin to neglect your own hygiene and personal needs to pander to the vain expectations of other people. Remember social media creates a false image of perfection that you are expected to fit in and since you cannot attain it, you end up with low self-esteem, despondency and sometimes suicidal thoughts.

How to end the obsession

  1. Ditch social media sites. Pull down your accounts and be free of this addiction for ever.
  2. If you cannot leave social media completely, reduce the number of sites you are in; after all the same people you follow on Twitter are your friends on FB.
  3. Come up with a social media schedule in which you spend a few hours every week catching up with the latest news, thus leaving the rest of the week for serious stuff.
  4. Spend more of your free time with real people, chatting, laughing, enjoying a meal or beverage, travelling and helping the poor instead of wasting all your productive time on social media.
  5. Work on your attitude, self-esteem, grooming and other personal elements away from social media and create a unique style for yourself so you don’t fall victim of unrealistic expectations of social media.

With Love,

Your Grace Guru 



Get Rid of Old Stuff and Start Anew in 2016!

The whole world belongs to humanity. However, there are some spaces that belong to individuals. You own such a place. It is your house, bedroom and so on. Occasionally, a lot of dirty stuff and other cluttering materials accumulate and this leads to physical, emotional and spiritual stagnation.

Is it normal to have stuff we don’t need?

Once you understand how the stuff you don’t need dirt contribute to your attitude and personal life, you will realise the need to rid yourself of the old and allow new and fresh ideas into your life. Often, we think that having stuff we don’t need is just a normal issue. But is that really true?

Think about those cards that your former boyfriend sent you many years ago and which you keep in a small or big box somewhere in your house. Are they really worth keeping today? How about those old shoes and clothes that you don’t wear anymore? Is there something more useful you can do with such space? How about the dust that emanates from these spaces, hurting your health? How many people would benefit from those old clothes that you are keeping and which you cannot wear because they are out of fashion or cannot fit you anymore? Even if you don’t want to donate your stuff to the poor why not convert them into money? You can sell your used books on Amazon and spend the proceeds in other ways.

It is unfortunate that you lost that close family member. However, keeping their old clothes and other bulky mementos in a closed room in your house is not the best way to celebrate the dead. Wouldn’t it be better to remember you late relatives by giving out their stuff to the needy?

Beyond getting rid of old stuff here is the philosophical angle of de-cluttering

The old and bulky stuff that occupies our precious spaces is closely connected to our relationships, histories, identities and also feelings of self-worth. We choose to keep old photos and personal belongings of our dead relatives because we want to remember them. Those romantic letters from your childhood flame are important for your history and also to remind you of your worth when somebody else rejects you.Many a times when you go through your stuff you are going through an emotional journey. Every item reminds you of a specific time in your life when you were either happy or sad. Some photos bring fond memories of people you once knew. There are also those photos that you don’t even want to look at a second time because they bring back painful memories. In essence, whatever you keep that has no use currently carries memories and emotions that are either positive or negative. When you decide to get rid of such stuff, you are getting rid of those memories and feelings. Consequently, it is important that you sort out your stuff carefully before you burn some documents, throw away some papers, sell some personal stuff or even donate to charity.

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How your dirty and bulky stuff affects you emotionally…

Experience has shown that people who have unwanted stuff that occupies space unnecessarily in their lives also have emotional problems corresponding to the clutter in their lives. In those old shoes, clothes, letter, photos and other stuff are negative feelings and experiences that you need to let go. Many have never forgotten their former lovers. They keep photos and other mementos of their former flames. As a result, they spend a lot of time comparing current lovers with past ones and end up with broken hearts because no two people are the same.

Your house lacks vital energy because, where that power should be, because you have chosen to keep the personal belongings of your grandparent who died many years ago. There is no way new positive energy will come your way if you don’t create space for it. Those projects you have not completed for many years fill you with frustration and desperation. You have even allowed some people to store their unwanted stuff in your house. It is stuffy, dirty and uncomfortable. You cannot think creatively in your own house.

A new beginning

As you begin the New Year you need to create time to sort out valuable items that deserve to be retained and those that belong to charity or the trash bin. Look around you and you will realise that a huge chunk of the stuff in your house is simply useless junk that clutters your life without adding any value to you.

The New Year offers you an opportunity to begin life anew. Getting rid of old stuff should be a gradual process because it is not easy to let some stuff to go. However, always remember that the moment you get rid of unwanted stuff, you will get a new dose of optimism that will help you live more productively in the New Year. Free yourself of trash and live in a clean physical, emotional and mental environment.

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With love,

Grace Guru




The Essence and Beauty of a Smile!

If you knew the potency of a smile, you would use it more often. The hearts doesn’t lie and one of the languages of the heart is your smile. Did you know that that positive reaction you craved from people, but never received, was denied because you never smiled? There is a profound science behind a smile which you should know so that you use this weapon more often to your advantage.

Non-verbal communication

Did you know that a lot of the meaning we share in communication is actually non-verbal? People tend to believe more in what you don’t say than in what comes out of your mouth. One of the non-verbal cues that people resort to in order to judge your intentions and character is your smile. Even little children avoid older people who don’t smile genuinely and often!


Smiles are like communicable diseases

A smile is a contagious cue that transmits an emotion. More importantly, a sincere smile is easy to decipher and it comes our involuntarily. Your mood or emotion is like a barometer that people use to gauge approachability. Your smile represents the units of measurement. When you smile, you are telling the people around you that you are a positive minded person they should get close to you.

In addition, a smile elevates your mood and the emotions of people around you. Have you ever noticed how a smiling child brings cheer to people in the vicinity, including strangers? Try looking at a mirror and smiling at your face and you will be surprised at how your smiling mirror image will create wells of positive feelings inside you.

Research has shown that when a positive-minded and smiling person enters a room, the mood of the people in that space is transformed to reflect what the newcomer has introduced. The opposite is true. A smile is like an echo that must reflect back. The only way you can make people to view you positively is to be genuinely concerned about them to the extent that it shows on your face through your smile.

What else does research say about smiling?

• What would you feel if someone gave you a big amount of cash or you won the jackpot in a lottery? That is the feeling a simple smile will give you at no cost.

• When you smile, you help your body to fight against worry while simultaneously bringing down you heart rate and blood pressure.

• Do you love eating chocolate? A smile will bring so much happiness your way that not even 2000 chocolate bars will!

• A child will smile 400 times more than you every day. The best most of us can accomplish is 40 to 50 times, if we really love to smile.

• Endorphins, the feel-good hormones in your brain, are secreted when you smile thus increasing your propensity for positivity and success.

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Let’s be more practical

When you smile often you increase your chances of succeeding in your interactions with other people and also in your individual pursuits. A smile is sometimes the differences between the job candidate who secures employment and the one who merely attends an interview. Of course you know that interviewers are human who cannot resist a smile!

A smile makes one salesperson successful while grumpiness drags the other person to failure even though the two have similar qualifications and the same products to sell. The reason some shopkeepers have a constant flow of customers and others end up closing shop in the first month is because one smiles with customers and the other doesn’t. Indeed as the Chinese say, “If you can’t smile, don’t open a shop!”

One woman has a hard time getting men to notice her despite her natural beauty and the added magic of makeup and stylish dressing. Another woman is confused on how to choose the right man for her because the number that is attracted to her warm genuine smile is too high to handle.

How then do you make smiling a natural habit?

1. Be grateful for who you are and what you have and you will realise you have something to give to the world including a genuine smile.
2. Maintain a positive mind-set and you will realize that the world has so much to laugh and be happy about.
3. Fake it till you make it. Go before a mirror and smile at yourself. Visualise yourself smiling before people and feel the positive vibrations you will create in these people.
4. Keep in mind that special person in your life. Think about the many happy times you shared together and particular events that are unforgettable for both of you.
5. Learn to see the unusual and hilarious side of life. There are many events, people, movies, songs and many other issues that should not leave you without a smile.
6. Surround yourself with positive minded people who also like to smile. Soon you will catch the smiling diseases and never get cured!

Finally, please remember to smile genuinely!

With Love,

Your Grace Guru



Beat That Dreaded Bulge – A Quick and Simple Detox After a Period of Indulgence

Christmas is a time of indulgence – good and bad alike. The festive season provides an opportunity for us to unwind after a long busy year. At the end this season, many of us will be exhausted. Hangovers, lethargy, illnesses and irritability will be common as we try to deal with the aftermath of our drinking sprees and binge eating.

Before you think you are being judged for your excessive behaviour, remember you are not alone. All of us indulge over Christmas and New Year, it’s one of the best parts of the holidays! There are numerous visits to other people as we also receive visitors. In between, there is the temptation to eat and drink beyond normal to please our hosts or guests.

The only problem is that you will be left to deal with the repercussions. When all the niceties have been said, the music has died down and everyone has returned to their day to day lives, you will be left to argue with the weighing scale that dreaded bulge (erghhhh).

Most of the regrets actually emanate from poor planning of the holiday season and a carefree attitude. It is like a dog that has been unleashed and given a few hours to indulge in its most-craved activities before being tied up again.

The following are our quick and effective methods that you can use to detox your body after indulging in binge eating and excessive drinking:

1. Go Water Crazy

Your body is predominantly made up of water. Water is life and without it your body cannot function (especially on a hangover where you are more than likely to be extremely hungover and have a lot of salt in your system from that guilty pizza, kebab or burger at 3am). Water is also a cleansing agent, working with the kidneys and the skin. After mistreating your system during festivities, you will do well to cleanse your blood by drinking a lot of water.

Mixing warm water with lemon is also known to remove any toxins from the night before. Similarly, peppermint tea and green tea can be extremely helpful with relieving symptoms of bloating, constipation and other digestion problems. They can also act as a temporary fix to speed up a process of loosing any weight you may have gained from having one too many minced pies. (Yay for herbal tea!)

2. Squeeze In A Workout

It is ironic how we throw caution to the wind when the festive season arrives. People who used to flock fitness centres all of a sudden take a break. The few exercises you used to do at home evaporate from your mind and schedule. You sleep late and wake up when the sun is up. By the time you celebrate the New Year, you have added kilos.

Hard as it may sound, hitting the gym just once will help so much. Not only will you feel better within yourself, you will also jump kick the return of the fitness bug ready for the new year!! Even if you take a short jog round a local park, or along a river, throw yourself ahead of the game and in front of everyone else (don’t deny those mini competitions that will arise with your friends come January).

3. Ditch Carbs

Now that you want to detox your body it is important to remember where it all began. It all started with uncontrolled eating and drinking. Similarly, your path back to the ideal weight and healthy body is through diet. You must start watching what you are eating. More importantly, eat foods that help you to clear the bad stuff you have eaten over the previous weeks.

To begin with, don’t bloody skip breakfast! I don’t know what time you will have to wake up, but irrespective of your busy work schedule, make sure you enjoy a heart and healthy morning meal. The food items on your breakfast table should be well-balanced. High levels of fibre and protein are key.

Secondly, ditch the heavenly carbs. Oh yeah we’re talking pasta, pizza, rice, bread – the whole team. Feeling lazy and craving a Big Mac, or Fish and Chips? Hell no, you can forget about that. Ditch all processed foods, put the phone down what do you think you’re doing ordering Dominos Pizza or that lamb curry? We’ve just had Christmas! The time for guilt-free indulging is over! You will without doubt begin to feel the difference if you stop eating carbs and processed foods even after a couple of weeks!

Lastly, You cannot detox your body if you don’t watch the portions you are eating. Your lunch should not be as heavy as your breakfast. Actually, the best way to ensure you don’t overeat during lunch is to eat well in the morning. Keep your lunch to leafy greens and some protein, mix with some delicious salad recipes and dressings so that it encourages you to keep eating healthy.

4. Get Your Zzz’s

In addition to water, exercise and diet, give your body adequate rest. Part of the reason you have gained weight over Christmas is lack of sleep. Eat a light dinner some two or three hours before sleep. Got to bed early and give your body ample rest. Your mind needs detox just as the body. Make sure your house is well-ventilated, and surround yourself with your favourite music. Practice positive thinking especially as you face the challenges of January. If you are religious, revive your spiritual life.

Practice this and you will recover quickly and effectively from any excess weight and psychological complications of the holiday season and face the New Year confidently.

If you have any special tips that work for you, we would love to hear about them! You can see us on Facebook at, send us a tweet: or use our instagram hashtags #graceguruloves or #gracegurulifestyle

With Love,

Your Grace Guru 




How To Experience And Enjoy Tantra Energy

In conventional and popular sexual approaches, sexual energy is released when partners reach orgasm. However, did you know that this philosophy is only true when your partner and you do not understand how to control your bodies and minds?

Of depleted batteries that need recharging

Let’s use and analogy to understand how conventional sex works. When you charge a battery, it gives you the energy you need, which decreases gradually until the battery is drained. This is similar to what happens when you reach orgasm. Your sexual energy is discharged and you feel exhausted.

The opposite is true in Tantric Sex. Here the battery does not lose any energy; it flows unhindered. The partners in Tantric Sex experience increased a vitality that moves around the body – orgasm of the entire body. For partners in normal sex, the energy is in a kind of reservoir that is drained in a short while, during the moment of passion.

Not sporadic moments of passion but prolonged pleasure

Tantric Sex consists of sexual energy in sublime form. This energy remains within the sources, only leaving in form of flows and pulses and going back to its origin. Contrast this with conventional sex where a moment of passion results in the shutdown of the system. Now you know why men doze off after orgasm. In essence, the two sexual partners have no connection.

Rejuvenation, not exhaustion after sex

Tantric sex is different in that you feel rejuvenated and not exhausted during and after sex because of tantric energy. Both of you are conscious of the proceedings and of one another. Throughout the passionate encounter, you are mindful of the happenings and orgasm only enhances, but does not deplete, your energy. Very few people attain this state of continued pleasure.

The price to pay for tantric sex

But do not be cheated that this will happen without any effort. Your partner and you must be trained to focus. Tantra teachers use yoga techniques to train you on this approach to sex. The consequence is a rebirth, whereby you become totally aware of one another and your linkage – emotionally and spiritually. Make sure you choose the right partner or your husband, as the connection is becoming very strong!

In order to preserves and maximise sexual energy in Tantric Sex, you need to practice particular rituals. Prolonged Tantra worship assists you in generating sexual energy, which is them made to flow freely and rejuvenate the minds and bodies of your partner and you. For this to happen, your minds and bodies must be prepared adequately for the process.

Age and past experience do not matter

When your bodies and minds are not trained in Tantra Sex, you reach gratification rapidly. However, if you are prepared through tantric medication and yoga, you will last for a longer time, with sexual gratification taking longer to come. To learn more about Tantric Sex, identify a tantra master and start your journey towards fulfilling sex. Finally, in tantric sex, your age or past sexual experience cannot hinder you from enjoying this unforgettable sex.

With love,

Your Grace Guru



What Is Tantric Sex?!

Sex is meant to be enjoyed by those involved in it. For many, it presents the opportunity to lift the partner and oneself into a world of pure passion and satisfaction. No wonder then that everybody craves for the big O – orgasm. But is the big O all that is important in sex?

Feeling Cheated

It has become the norm for many to approach the sexual act with the sole purpose of getting personal fulfillment without any regard as to the feelings of the other person. More often than not, one partner is left dissatisfied and unhappy. They feel cheated by their satisfied partners and sometimes have no desire to engage in sex with the same partner in future.

Sex As A Spiritual Journey And Encounter

To reverse this trend that exists since 5,000 years ago, try Tantric Sex. Tantric Sex is a philosophy that presents sexuality as a spiritual engagement. Tantra in Sanskrit means “woven together”. It is based on the tenet that sex is about radiating energy between partners by exploring sexuality. Unlike conventional sexual approaches, when you engage in Tantric Sex, you are not merely in search of orgasm, but your goal is to engage in an enriching and holistic sexual experience.

Reaching Out To A Higher Power

Tantra is not a religion. However, it offers you the opportunity to practice your beliefs if you are the kind of person who believes that sex should create a link between you and a supernatural being. Tantric Sex is also for you if you want to deepen the linkage between you and your lover. The good thing is that you are not required to ad here to a set of religious dogma to enjoy Tantric Sex.

How Different Is Tantric Sex?

By now you are familiar with the narrative of sex that we have been taught to adhere to: the unequivocal beginning (sexual anticipation), the middle (physical penetration) and the culmination (orgasm). Well, you will be surprised to know that Tantric Sex deviates from this norm and encourages feeling and slowing down to enjoy the sexual experience.

How To Practice Tantric Sex

It all begins with preparing you’re a nice comfortable area for sex, ensuring the it is comfy and aromatizing the room with sensual scents. But not your bedroom, as in the bedroom we automatically want to go to sleep. The next step is to synchronize your breathing with that of your partner before actual penetration. Tantric Sex also demands that you open your eyes and maintain that stance when making love as this will create precious memories to keep you going as you wait for the next encounter with your partner. Finally, make love slowly, taking time to focus your thoughts on your partner and build sexual and spiritual energy together.

Why Tantric Sex?

It is important to view your spouse or sexual partner as a human being with feelings. Further, there is a lot of positive energy that you can derive from the other person during sex. Additionally, Tantric Sex brings you closer to your supreme being. In essence, this is not just sex – it is a lasting and unforgettable experience.

Read more about Tantra and practical exercises in my next articles!


With love,

Your Grace Guru



At Home With The Aadneviks!

Fashion phenomena Kristian and Hila Aadnevik invited me to spend the day with them to discuss all things stylish and spiritual! Creators of one of London’s hottest and edgiest womenswear labels, the Aadneviks have collaborated with the world’s leading international fashion houses, including Alexander McQueen, Roberto Cavalli and Donatella Versace – the latter declaring Kristian her “protégée!”

celeb 1Fashion is a statement that this dynamic duo is oh-so familiar with, but how much do we really know about Kristian and Hila? What makes one of Vogue’s chicest couples happy? What do they value most?

Channelling the energy inside their famous Knightsbridge atelier, I explored the hearts and minds of these enigmatic designers. Using the Proust Questionnaire, I like to discover new things about old friends or famous people who we think we know so well! Being spiritual and exploring the deepest meanings of life, love and fear with Kristian and Hila Aadnevik…



Kristian Aadnevik: Autumn/Winter 2015 Collection

What is your idea of perfect happiness?
Hila: My life!
Kristian: Perfect happiness is now – loving family, waking up every morning to my son’s eagerness to explore life together, working passionately – creating.

What is your greatest fear?
Hila: Anything bad happening to my family.

What is the trait you most deplore in yourself?
Hila: Perfectionism!

What is the trait you most deplore in others?
Hila: Dishonesty!

What is your current state of mind?
Hila: Live and let live.
Kristian: Ambitious, happy and excited.

What is the quality you most like in a woman?
Hila: Being a hard player.

#styleselfie – Hila Aadnevik

What or who is the greatest love of your life?
Hila: My two men!
Kristian: The love of my son Silver is immeasurable, the greatest gift.

When and where were you happiest?
Hila: Home with my boys
Kristian: I am happiest right now and I look forward to waking up every day.

Which talent would you most like to have?
Hila: Mind reading.
Kristian: Being creative and making things that people can love is the greatest gratification.

If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
Hila: I love who I am today.

What do you consider your greatest achievement?
Hila: Being a mum.
Kristian: Always moving forward.

If you were to die and come back as a person or a thing, what would it be?
Hila: I love my current life! Thank you!!

Where would you most like to live?
Hilla: London
Kristian: Living is London is the best for me right now; it is a truly unique city. With the greatest museums in the world on my doorstep, being surrounded by people from all over the world and the creative energy of the old and new – it is a very inspirational place.

Kristian Aadnevik: Autumn/Winter 2015 Collection

What is your most treasured possession?
Hila: My son.
Kristian: My family; my son Silver and my partner Hila.

What is your favorite occupation?
Hila: Design!
Kristian: I do what I love doing and I am lucky to be able to have a job that is also my passion. For me it is not really a job, it is a way of life.

What is your most marked characteristic?
Hila: Don’t take no for an answer.
Kristian: Calm and focused under stressful conditions.

What do you most value in your friends?
Hila: Honesty!
Kristian: Loyalty and love!

Who are your favorite writers?
Hila: Paulo Coelho.

The Aadneviks Knightsbridge Atelier: Wearing Spring/Summer 2015 Collection

Who are your heroes in real life?
Hila: The father of my baby.

What is your greatest regret?
Hila: Never regret anything that led you to who you are today!

What is your motto?
Kristian: Every day is a new opportunity to discover and create.

What does spirituality means for you?
Hila: A personal connection with my higher power…
Kristian: For me it means to be in touch with my soul, my inner being.

What is meditation for you?
Kristian: Meditation for me is to awaken and feel the depths of my soul, to connect with my spirit.

Kristian Aadnevik: Spring/Summer 2015 Collection

What means for you love?
Hila: Eternity and unconditional.
Kristian: Love is the fuel for happiness and the soul – love gives life meaning.

What makes you laugh?
Hila: Seeing my sons smiling face every morning.

Are you connected with the universe?
Hila: yes!
Kristian: The universe is there like an infinite mystery and it always keeps me wonder and dream.

What do you believe about God?
Hila: That god is part of me and I am part of my god!

What gives most meaning to your life?
Hila: My son and love.
Kristian: My son Silver, and exploring life with him and my partner Hila.

What are you living for?
Kristian: I am living for every day, to love, to experience, to create, to smile, to enjoy and to achieve.

How do you handle pressure?
Hila: Shopping!
Kristian: Pressure makes me focused, productive and stronger.

What, or who, are your sources of daily strength?
Kristian: The strength comes from within, my son and partner gives me the joy of life. Early every morning my son Silver wakes me up to play and then we all go together to the park to feel alive; it is the best start before a busy day.

When did you feel closest to God?
Hila: Every moment of the day.

If you would stand in front of God, what would you tell him?
Hila: Thank you!

Do you believe in destiny?
Hila: Of course!
Kristian: Sometimes…

If you had a choice to be born in a different time? Which one would it be and why?
Kristian:I am very happy to live in the now, still I am very curious about the future.

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Kristian Aadnevik: Autumn/Winter 2015 Collection


With Love,

Your Grace Guru



Our Recommended Inspirational Feel-Good Summer Books!

Summer is getting to an end it this is your last chance to select few more books before the last holiday ends and everybody is back in to the September rush! Also I love summer especially because it arouses in me some form of curiosity and creativity. Perhaps it is because of the warmth and the small but loud voice that urges me to go out and bask in the rays of the sun. More importantly, summer puts me in the mood for reading.

I want to share with you some of the books that I believe you should read this summer. But before I do so, allow me to underline that reading is not a waste of time. I am not talking about reading for an examination or any academic course for that matter. I mean reading for the sake of getting knowledge, acquiring some skills or imply enjoying a story. Reading imparts knowledge, relaxes the mind, reduces stress and puts you in the mood for sleep and some very nice dreams!

This summer, I don’t want you to read only conventional texts. I want you to try different authors. Further, endeavour to read on a range of topics and genres. I know romance novels are exciting, but it is important to try a classic or autobiography for a change. Without further ado, here is my recommenced list for summer reading.

1. Happiness 365: One-a-Day Inspirational Quotes for a Happy YOU! – Chopra and Harry

This is a unique motivational book that gives you a quote to inspire you every day. Life is not always straight. There will be days of gloom and others full of happiness. Sometimes you will feel like giving up especially if you don’t have people near you to cheer you up. This book will ensure you have some uplifting nugget of wisdom to ponder as you go through your daily struggles. Chopra and Harry had you in mind when they created this wonderful text.

There are people who read more than one quote. They simply cannot wait for the following day. The most important thing is that you have something to cheer you up every day. You can begin reading this book at any time because every day has its portion. If you begin this summer, you will have a quote for each day until next summer. Happiness 365 will help you to inculcate the habit of reading. Irrespective of your age, this book will make your summer enjoyable.

2. Autobiography: The Story Of My Experiments With The Truth – M. K. Ghandi

As we depart from the norm in summer reading, I want you to read this autobiography. Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi is one of the most exceptional people that ever lived. He was an Indian freedom fighter who advocated for non-violent means of freeing India from British colonialism. He became the first Prime Minister of India. In this book you will read about his early life, studies, experience of fighting for freedom and the dreams he had for his country.

An autobiography is crucial to any keen reader because it allows one to interact with the author’s life and to learn important lessons for life. Gandhi is one of the most quoted people and authors you will ever come across. His experiences in different continents and interactions with people of all races place him among the greatest people who ever lived. Instead of living in your own narrow world, read the extraordinary story of this great lawyer, author, politician and leader and gain lessons that you can apply to your life this summer.

  1. Communication Skills: Communication Skills Made Easy! Talk to Anyone with Confidence, Influence People, Master your Conversations! – David Cross

My summer reading list contains more surprises. Have you ever wondered whether you are a good communicator? Many of us assume we are, but we are far from being people who can use communication effectively. As you relax this summer, read this book to improve your communication skills. David Cross’ book is appropriate for an individual as well as a professional who wants to improve their people skills.

There is much that you can accomplish with excellent communication skills and this book will equip you or help you to sharpen skills you already have. You will learn how to appreciate yourself and your communication behavior. This book will teach you how to craft the best communication for the appropriate moment. If you are a person who is often involved in persuasive communication, here is the right text to help you influence people. If you have problems speaking to many people at once, this book will equip you with public speaking skills.

  1. Where’d You Go, Bernadette? – Maria Semple

Next in line is a novel. A well-told narrative with twists and turns will cheer you up and rev up your imagination this summer. This story revolves around Bernadette Fox and her daughter Bee. The mother is quirky and notorious. She means different things to different people. Although her husband is a techie, she claims to know more about life than him. Her fellow parents at school consider her a disgrace. She is adored by her fashion crazy friends. But to her eleven-year-old daughter, she is everything; a heroine, friend and most of all, a loving mother.

The story becomes interesting when Bernadette disappears and Bee has to create some kind of a description or history of her mother in order to find her. Apparently, Bernadette did not like Seattle and decided to travel. This novel details the efforts of a daughter to find her mother despite all the odds. It illustrates the close relationship between the two. This is not a novel you will want to put down before you reach the end.

  1. To Kill a Mockingbird – Happer Lee

The next book on our summer list is a classic novel. There is something that modern writing misses and can borrow from classic writings. You may have read this text in a literature class during the course of your studies. If you did, relive the moments, this time without the agony of knowing there is an exam waiting for you. If you have never come across this text, prepare yourself for a gripping narrative that explores race relations and chides society for being hypocritical about race.

The novel is set in the Deep South during the 1930s. A black man (symbolized by the Mocking Bird) is on trial for allegedly raping a young white girl. The narrator is a child and this allows readers to explore how race, class and justice interact when a black man is on trial during an era when racism was prevalent. There is reason why this novel won the Pulitzer Prize for Literature and why the narrative was turned into a film. Read it this summer to find out.

6. The Absolute Best Dump Cake Cookbook: More Than 60 Tasty Dump Cakes – Rockridge Press

This is another surprise inclusion on our summer reading list. It is important to learn a new skill or improve the one you have this summer, thus a cookery book. I know cookery is gradually becoming a rare art since people prefer to eat ready-made food, especially fast food. Dump Cakes are the easiest type of cakes for anyone to make. They don’t require a lot of expertise yet those who eat them will praise you for your skill!

This is an award winning book having been declared a best seller on USA Today, Wall Street Journal and New York Times. The recipes are simple and you can use locally available ingredients to make a delicious and nutritious dump cake. Learn how to spice up dessert with 56 exceptional recipes. For those who like eating healthy snacks, don’t worry because this book will teach you how to bake a cake and enjoy it without feeling guilty! This is a skill you must learn this summer.

7. Why Didn’t They Teach Me This at School? 99 Personal Money Management Principles to Live By – Cary Siegel

This summer you are likely to spend a lot of money as you travel to different places to rejuvenate your body during vacation. This will definitely put a hole in your pockets. The reason why you are broke every time summer ends is best known to you. Here is a book that will ensure that this summer is the last one when you will complain of being broke after enjoying the sun and sand.

Why do they make math and English compulsory in school, yet the problems we face in most cases after school have to do with poor management of money? Read this book to understand 99 lessons on personal money management that will transform the way you view and handle your finances. These are lessons that no school will teach you – not even an MBA syllabus has such content. These are practical lessons from Siegel, meant for his children, but now availed to you to transform your financial life.

8. The Power Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business – Charles Duhigg

The last item in our summer reading list is a book that will help you to come to grips with your day-to-day life. Habits are very powerful and unless we understand and control them, we will end up being unproductive. Unlike other comparable texts, this author does not simply lecture you on habits, but gives you the scientific background behind them. The examples and illustrations used in this text are derived from real workplaces and instances of human interaction.

The author is emphatic that whatever you want to achieve in your life boils down to habits. Whether you want to lose weight or become more efficient in what you do, you need to understand the science of habits. This text is intended to make you better in whatever you do, whether you are alone or with friends and society at large. As you count down to another year until the next summer, it is time to adopt good habits and drop the ones that pull you down.

With love,

Your Grace Guru



Secrets For A Younger You!

From time immemorial, we have been taught to believe that ageing is inevitable. We naturally expect to grow older, frail and eventually succumb to death. History and experience also bear witness to this fact. After all, aren’t we witnessing our elderly folks going through the same process?

It is for this reason that many people are pleasantly shocked when they hear that the aging process can be decelerated and that human beings can grow younger! Did you know that your body is actually a field of energy and intelligence? Are you aware that your body and mind are closely connected and that you age because your mind believes you must age?

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This implies that you begin to lose your physical and mental abilities with the passage of years largely because you have conditioned your mind to believe that this must happen! Since your mind influences your body cells, the ageing process can be reversed, accelerated or slowed down.

You may be asking, “Isn’t ageing genetic?” Yes it is a factor, but it is not the key determinant. The ageing process and your health are not predetermined. You can choose to behave in such a manner that your body is transformed to beat the biological clock. Here’s how:

  1. Begin by Changing your Attitude

Humans are fond of underestimating the power of the mind. You need to stop viewing your body as a preconditioned machine that must eventually succumb to biological wear and tear. Shift your mind to seeing yourself as a field of energy that continues to transform itself and has renewable intelligence. Begin to make positive affirmations about your body and ageing. Stop glorifying ageing and other inherited weaknesses and focus on living for many more years to come.

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  1. Deal with Stress Effectively

Stress is inevitable considering the struggles we go through life and the fact that we have to deal with people who do not necessarily share our points of view. Remember stress accelerates the ageing process. It is, therefore, imperative that you reduce stress in your life if you are to grow younger. One of the best strategies to do this is to meditate. During meditation, your body and mind relax, you breathe more slowly, the heartbeat slows down and the hormones that control stress also relax.

  1. Get Adequate Sleep

You age faster when you fail to sleep adequately. If you are not getting between six and eight hours of restful sleep every day, then you are not doing your body any favour. This habit also weakens you immunity and disrupts you body’s internal balance. The best indicator that you slept restfully is to be energetic when you wake up. To arrive at this ideal, ensure you take a light meal before 7:30 pm and then sleep by 10.00 pm.

  1. Eat a Balanced Diet

Eating fresh food or that which is freshly prepared is a strategy for curbing ageing. You also need to eat a balanced diet and ensure it includes foods that are pungent, astringent and bitter, in addition to the common salty, sweet and sour ones. Do not forget to make your food colourful by including foods that have antioxidants. I am suggesting that you eat lots of fruits, vegetables and legumes like mustard, spinach, peppers, lentils, tea, lettuce, radishes and ginger.

  1. Work Out Regularly

It is impossible to discuss strategies for growing younger without considering exercise. When you work out, your biological processes are invigorated and you begin to have brain cells that are close to one another. Your mind is rejuvenated and your emotional health is boosted. To this end, endeavour to engage in cardio, aerobics and strength training with the help of a fitness trainer. A cheaper but equally effective strategy is to jog and stretch out regularly.

  1. Invest in the Social Sphere

You can grow younger by surrounding yourself with love and affection. Research has shown that people who are lonely and isolated are more prone to heart and mental illnesses than those who have constant company of loved ones. I am not talking about old people homes but a real family that offers love and support to its members. Create emotional bonds and invest in them instead of spending the entire day watching television.

  1. Learn from Children and Imitate them

To grow younger, you need to be childlike. Remember when you used to be carefree and would laugh and play knowing everything was fine? I know today you are conditioned to believe that that was foolish behaviour. The truth is that a childlike disposition is essential for reversing or controlling ageing. Get time to relive those childhood days by engaging in some of the games you used to play. You will be surprised at how fast youth will flood back.

Don’t Forget:

  1. It is possible to become young if you engage in deliberate activities that change your thinking and body processes.
  2. Ageing is not mandatory; we are conditioned to believe that we must grow old and eventually die.
  3. You have a right to live for as long as you like and this is what some people discovered a long time ago and we keep honouring them with Guinness World Records.
  4. You cannot grow younger unless you begin to eat fresh food and freshly cooked meals instead of junk food.
  5. You may have heard that rich people sleep less hours every day. Why should you sleep less, get more money and eventually have a shorter time to enjoy what you work for?
  6. Stress is inevitable but it can greatly enhance ageing unless you control it through meditation and other effective techniques.
  7. Your attitude is paramount in the quest to grow younger. Whatever you believe influences ageing. Believe you are a field of energy that renews itself every day and it will be so.
  8. Stop being a hermit and surround yourself with people. Love and affection are essential ingredients for growing younger.
  9. Control your emotions and learn to forgive and forget. Didn’t you hear that holding a grudge against someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die?
  10. Get out, stretch your limbs and body and sweat profusely. You cannot grow younger without regular exercise.

 With love,

Your Grace Guru