The Importance Of Letting Go

The marvels and limitations of the material world can serve as a motivating factor or a hindrance to the realisation of your dreams. Depending on your experiences, you might be tempted to think that you will never make it or, alternatively, that you have the power to achieve anything you want. Where exactly do you stand?

One fact of life is that we are limited. However, there exists another greater and infinite power that can help us deal with our weaknesses. It is a personal choice, therefore, whether to sit and whine about your troubles, or to unite with the higher power to achieve your dreams.

Picture These Scenarios…

How many people do you know who always find a reason why they cannot take on a certain challenge? “I can’t finish this course because I don’t have money.” “I can’t travel to Bali because I don’t have money.” Or “If only I had been born in a rich family…” You’ve heard such statements, or even made them, for so long that they now sound like clichés. Unfortunately, what you affirm with your mouth repeatedly eventually becomes true. Now you know why you cannot make it through a problem or a challenge once your brain tells your heart that it is not possible.

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Limiting Divine Power

Apart from those who call themselves atheists, most of us belief in a Divine Being. We all have names for this infinite power. Some call it God while others prefer to use the term Supreme Being. I mentioned this already in my article about Prayers (can we add a link here to the prayers article?)Whichever name you prefer, you acknowledge that there is a higher power that influences and controls your life.

I will call this power God for the purpose of this article. I want to suggest to you that God not only has power over the universe but can also give you part of this power to overcome your limitations. There is a catch, though. It is possible for you to limit what God can do for you through the restrictions you place on yourself.

Most of these limitations are in your mind. In most cases they are created and nurtured through repeated negatives experiences, negative affirmations and erroneous beliefs. For example, if you were taught, directly or indirectly, that you are weak and incapable of rising above your troubles, you are most likely going to remain in the same situation until and unless you acknowledge that God can give you the strength to overcome your challenges.

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How Exactly Does It Work?

Divine power is unlimited energy that created everything you see and know. It works in unseen ways in your life to provide you with the things you really need. Remember there is a difference between needs and wants. In out finite wisdom we sometimes confuse needs and wants but God does not.

God brings into your path the persons, situations, places and scenarios which are meant to transform your life for the better. Unfortunately, owing to your limited thinking and predetermined expectations you fail to see these signs of fortune even when they are placed before your eyes. You fail to notice coincidences and obvious signs that can lead to unbound universal blessings.


Trust Is The Key

I do not blame you if you think the ways of God are too complex to comprehend. After all you are used to visible things. You see first and believe later. You have no ability to see the future and you, therefore, cannot see the blessings Divinity has placed before you in the days to come.

That is why you need to have trust. You must believe that even though you cannot see it, God is opening your way and preparing abundance before you. You must let go your feelings and beliefs of inadequacy and allow God to illuminate your path. By surrendering yourself to Divine presence you will attract countless benefits. You will also become a conduit for many to reach out to God seeing how your life has been transformed.

Free From Limitations

It’s never too late to free yourself from negative feelings and thought and reconnect with divinity. Let go your weak will and begin to live from your soul. Only then will God release unfathomable blessings that were created for you in particular. Take heart because you don’t have to make animal sacrifices or pay millions of dollars to reach this ideal.

All you need to do is to create a positive affirmation on your desire to receive from God while also expressing your trust in the life set out for you. Write down the affirmation in a present time.


“Self-love helps me make positive changes easily.”

“Money is a state of mind that supports me. I allow prosperity to enter my life on a higher level then ever before.”

“My partner is the love of my life. We adore each other.”

(affirmations by Louise L. Hay)

Read it loudly every day after waking up and before going to bed, while you are still a bit sleepy. Now that you have kindled the fire, listen and watch keenly as you will get clues and hints from all directions on which direction you should take to change your life for the better.



  1. The life you are living today may not be what you have always wanted but it can change if you so desire.
  2. Although there are many reasons to be despondent in life, you have the ability change your situation.
  3. The many negative things you affirm to yourself eventually become reality. Be every careful what you believe and say about yourself – it will always come true.
  4. We have been taught and socialized into some ways of thinking that are limiting and this needs to change if we are to have fulfilling lives.
  5. It requires great effort to change your thinking and philosophy after many years of subscribing to negativity, but you have no choice if you must desire a better life.
  6. Divine Power or God created the universe and continues to sustain it. This is the power that is available for you to tap into and change your life.
  7. When we believe we cannot accomplish some things and that our fates are sealed, we limit the power of God to change our lives.
  8. Only through trust in Divine Power and its willingness to transform our lives can we transcend our limitations and achieve unimaginable things.
  9. You need to let go your feelings and thoughts of inadequacy and open yourself to the spiritual world where Divine Power will guide you through daily challenges.

Create a positive affirmation about your life and see how God will release his power and providence everyday into your life. Recite the affirmation every day.


With love,

Your Grace Guru



Create A Major Life Change!

Deep inside each human being is the need for positive progress and change. You want to move from one step to another, especially in the direction you have identified to be the right one. Only then will you feel that life has any value for you.

The greatest obstacle, however, lies in our nature as humans. We are creatures of habits and breaking a habit can be challenging. We often get so accustomed to certain ways of doing things that we create comfort zones. When the time to change comes, we resist it because we want to remain in our little cocoons of comfort.

How then can you ensure that you embrace a major change in your life?

  1. Have a Vision

The Good Book that Christians use for doctrinal purposes holds that in the absence of a vision, people perish. A vision is some form of a mental image on what changes you want to see in your life. Every great achievement begins with an idea. Whatever your motivation for change, you need to clearly define your destination.

You cannot realize any major change in your life when your vision is hazy. Exactly where do you want to be in terms of your career in the next two years? What is your preferred relationship status and by when should you have achieved it? Of course your vision must be SMART (specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and time-bound).

  1. Create An Actionable Plan To Back Your Vision

A vision will remain a mere statement unless it is backed by a viable plan. To create a major life change, you need to gather information towards making your vision a reality. You may want to borrow strategic planning concepts and plans from organisational settings. Planning constitutes the direction you will take towards your destination (vision).

A good plan is SMART. Moreover, when planning for a major change in your life, you need to understand your strengths and weaknesses as well as the resources at your disposal. It is also important to make your intentions clear. Remember, though, that no plan is full-proof.

  1. Acknowledge What Holds You Back

When creating a major change in your life, it is crucial for you to look back at what has hampered you in the past. Habits are very strong and can keep your from your dreams. How many times have you tried to overcome your addiction to drugs or porn? How many times did you vow never to engage in a negative habit only to revert to it the following day? Acknowledge and deal with the reasons that always thwart your plans to change.

A good example of factors that hinder progress for most individuals is peer pressure. I have seen people who enrol in fitness clubs to shed off excess weight leaving midway through their exercise regiments because their peers do not approve of such efforts. As part of your plan, devise strategies to deal with such people and habits.

  1. Have A Positive Attitude

Many people who want to see change rise or fall when it comes to attitude. Have you ever been told that all you need to shed excess weight is to exercise and eat well? While this is true, it is only so partly. Unless you have a winning mentality that believes your dream is possible, you are likely to fall along the way when challenges begin to emerge.

Physicians often remind us that most of the illnesses we think we are suffering from are simply mental illusions. You obviously have heard of the placebo effect, which illustrates that whatever we believe in works for us in most circumstances. Whatever change you need to see in your life must be informed by the vision you have.

  1. Involve Others

No man is an island, goes the famous cliché. That change you are looking for will impact someone else either positively or negatively. The best way to make sure you achieve your dreams and enjoy doing so is by involving significant people in your life during formation of the idea, planning and implementation.

Let’s take the example of a working mother who wants to advance her studies to get a promotion at work or to change careers. For her to attain this ideal, she needs the support of her employer, husband, children and other relatives. People who really value you will also encourage you along the way as you reach for the change you desire.

  1. Have Patience 

For any significant change to occur in your life, be ready for obstacles. Nothing good is attained when the waters are smooth. You might as well forget about the change you want if you are not willing to face and navigate rough waters. As they say, a ship at the harbour is safe but that is not what it was designed for.

Some of the challenges you need to handle will come from your own poor attitude and inherent weaknesses. Others will emanate from your family, workplace or even community. It is important to have your vision in mind and to remember you are doing this for yourself. You have to remain steadfast in the midst of obstacles.

  1. Review Your Progress

Finally, do not forget to sit back and review how far you have come. This should be on a regular basis. Monitoring and reviewing your progress is a sure way of ensuring you identify possible weaknesses and device strategies to overcome them before they run out of hand. Take time also to celebrate milestones as you move towards the change your desire.

If you are in the process of shedding excess weight, for example, you must weigh yourself regularly, preferably weekly, to know how well you are doing. Moreover, you need to discuss your progress or regress with your personal trainer to identify areas of weakness.


Points to Remember!

  1. Every major change comes at a cost. There can be no victory without sacrifice and sacrifice is by nature painful.
  2. Internalize the change you want to see by creating mental pictures and feeling the consequences of that change in your life even before you achieve it.
  3. Change cannot be achieved in a vacuum. People are key players in any change process. Ignore them at your own peril.
  4. Change begins with you and you must desire it so much so that you are willing to sacrifice your pleasures for some time to achieve what you want.
  5. Do not chew more than you can swallow. It would be a miracle for you to become a dollar millionaire in one month if you have no job currently and have no viable business idea you are working on.
  6. Having a spiritual dimension is important. Whatever you subscribe to as the Higher Being, ensure you involve it in your plans.
  7. Study the experiences of others to get inspired. Talk to people who have undergone momentous but deliberate transformation. Watch them on TV or read their stories for motivation.
  8. Listen to your inner voice. Whether you are planning or implementing, never forget to listen to your heart. It is rarely wrong. If it says that you change, do it.
  9. The naysayers will always be watching you, waiting for your downfall. Remain true to your vision and plan.
  10. Celebrate when you create that major change in your life. Reward yourself. Remember current triumphs will motivate you to set higher goals and achieve them.

With love,

Your Grace Guru



Is Your Workspace Spiritual?

One of the most fallacious and detrimental ideas I have come across is the belief that you can separate your life into distinct physical, spiritual and metal spheres. It is like separating an engine and the chassis and claiming you still have a car. This happens especially in relation to our working environments.

I come across people who believe that they cannot meditate in their workplaces. While there are many in offices who want to curtail stress and connect with their inner souls and the Divine Being, they often lack strategies for doing this. Actually, there is no better place to look for peace like your workplace because you experience a lot of stress in this environment.


Acknowledging Your Spirituality 

All this would change, if we realise that you are a spiritual being even before you become a worker. I don’t understand why you can consider yourself a spiritual being at home and feed your spiritual needs, yet when you go to work you become a physical being exclusively. The tragedy is that your job steals your energy to the extent that you begin to prioritise your physical needs above everything else.

How does this make you feel? Don’t you think that is the reason you sometimes don’t feel like going to work? Your mind, body and soul consider the work environment to be hostile to your spiritual needs. You wonder when working hours will come to an end so that you rush home to meditate. Considering work is an integral part of life, don’t you think you need to introduce your spirituality into your working environment?

Spirituality Is A Philosophy And Lifestyle, Not An Event!

From the onset, you must realize that spirituality should imbue your life. It is not a one-off event that happens when you arrive at home. If you understand this the environment you are in will not be a hindrance to your connection with yourself and Divine Power. Your soul needs to be nurtured at the same time and rate as your body and mind. Have you ever come across people who are very spiritual during the weekend and who become tyrants and sadists during the week?

How To Carry Spirituality Into The Workplace

The best strategy is to create a regular meditation plan. This is your ticket to an improved life as well as satisfaction and happiness in your place of work. You can accomplish this by having a number of reminders in your working environment:

  1. Life is larger than your work: Work is just part of what you need to live well but it is not everything. You are a human being who enjoys and requires happiness, encouragement love and support. Actually, you only feel fulfilled when your spiritual life is thriving.

As a spiritual being, the need for spiritual nurture should transcend all others because a weak soul is detrimental to your entire being.

  1. You need to meditate in order to release stress and thus improve performance: Stress kills productivity and efficiency. Meditation helps you to be innovative, creative, cooperative and communicative, which are important characteristics that every worker should have to deliver expected results. You come first: When you meditate or relax in silent contemplation, you learn to appreciate yourself in a profound manner. You then become a better decision-maker because you understand exactly what you need.

 Meditation is the best strategy for dealing with stress, which is a key reason for poor performance in your workplace. 

  1. Stop the hurry: You may deliver all your tasks before time, but the cost of doing so may affect your ability to function optimally tomorrow. Often what you deliver in a hurry turns out to be of poor quality. When you feel you are not in the right state of mind, it is better to slow down and return to the task when you are rejuvenated even if that means being late.

Learn to slow down in your workplace because most of what you accomplished when in a hurry is not fully completed or may leave you with burnout. 

  1. You need to feed your soul just like your tummy: When you are in optimal spiritual health, you can concentrate on the present because you have dealt with the past. The future will not bother you because you have the confidence to face it. Take the example of the Bible where Christians are urged to seek the kingdom of God first and all their other needs will be fulfilled.

You are created with a spiritual faculty that requires to be nurtured irrespective of where you are and the time.

  1. Meditation is a potent power for change: You can give your spirituality a boost by meditating in your workplace. It is a proven strategy for normalising your blood pressure, finding tranquility and boosting your breathing. When you meditate, you discipline your mind to concentrate and this is important for your professional life.

There is no mandatory time and place to meditate if you really care about your inner self.

 Your body, mind and soul are equally important and mutually interdependent. Meditating in your workplace will help you to realise who you really are. By understanding yourself, you will make it easy to perform your professional duties effectively and efficiently. Neglecting your spiritual needs for the sake of delivering your work on time is a weapon for destroying yourself and your professionalism.

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Tips To Take With You To Your Workspace:

  1. Your professional life is as important as you spiritual life. Do not neglect your inner self for the sake of your job.
  2. Just as you have time for eating, create time too for meditation and other forms of spiritual nurture. Even 3 or 5 minutes of putting your headphones on and listen to a meditation APP or relaxed music will make a huge difference.
  3. Place reminders in your workplace so that you don’t forget the importance of your inner, self, meditation and their interconnectedness:
  4. Remember to breath
  5. Use positive affirmation
  6. Place some refreshing room sprays near your desk, and spray when you feel you need to wake up or to calm down.
  7. Happy Family, friends or beautiful art photos and pictures, they are always mood uplifting and bring comfort

But don’t overdo it all by creating out of your desk an altar and your office a temple. Make sure you place all your reminders with style and chick. Even if you have a Fortune Buddha sitting on your desk, a funny pictures of your children or a beautiful affirmation., don’t be shy that other people or colleagues will notice, be an example and inspiration for them. People will look up to you and its always a good start for an easy conversation before a serious meeting.


With love,

Your Grace Guru!



Better Your Life – Stop Being A Busy Bee!

In the quest for a better life, people hustle every day. It appears to be a virtue and a reason to rejoice for you to be busy throughout your life. Busyness has become the norm to the extent that we think it is mandatory to be engaged in some kind of activity all the time. But is that really true?

Understandably, in a world where economic conditions do not favour the majority, those who idle around or want to live on the generosity of others or the state are frowned upon. You and I know people who have two or three jobs. Such individuals sleep for a few hours as they try to get as much money as possible to make ends meet. But is that the ideal life?

I want to suggest that none of us likes being so busy that we fail to enjoy even the money we work so hard to earn. Busyness is not what many of us want to portray it to be – a virtue and something to be proud about. We do it out of necessity.

Reversing the ‘Busyness’ Trend

Did you know it is possible to earn a living, start living and still avoid glorifying busyness? Here’s how:

  1. Living in the Present

Being busy does not negate the fact that you have a real life that encompasses family, friends, interaction, pastimes and challenges. Your family, friends and community need you and you need them equally. Life is not all about working ceaselessly. You must create time for people and institutions that encourage and motivate you through your daily struggles and challenges.

Living in the presence means that you recognise the roles other people play in your life. It implies reaching out to your children, partner and other relatives in mutual support. It means participating in the life of your community and reaching out to the less fortunate. None of these ideals can be achieved when you are engaged in endless activity.

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  1. Avoid Multi-tasking

I once heard that women are better at multitasking than men. I used to consider multitasking a virtue – not any more. You and I know mothers who spend time on social media when they return home after a busy day. This despite the fact that the parent has been away at work most of the day; the kids were in school, and the only time they have to interact is spent by the parent surfing the internet.

Next time you go to a restaurant, take time to observe what people on the same table, who came together to socialize, are doing. More time is spent looking one’s phone as opposed to talking with each other. Multitasking is a form of busyness and it is killing relationships at a very high rate. Why not set the phone aside and look at your partner as you engage in productive communication?

Me and my friends have set up kind of a rule, we don’t put our mobile phones on the table when having breakfast, lunch or dinners together. Only if there is something urgent and we expect an important call. It is really important that we spend a good time together and connect with each other!

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  1. Remember to Attend to Yourself

Being busy most of the time robs you of the most important person – yourself. I really don’t know what exactly people mean when they tell one another to take care. Is it about security or body hygiene? What is clear, though, is that unless you attend to yourself you will soon lose the steam and health to be busy.

Those who own cars understand the importance of fueling and regular service. Why then do we forget to take care of the very body, mind and soul that make our busyness possible? Take time off and spend it with yourself, you will discover so much. Pamper the body by eating a balanced diet and exercising. Look for the best lotions and perfumes to moisten your skin. Never forget to meditate and connect spiritually with the Supreme Being and your fellow beings.

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  1. Delegate Tasks

At the risk of appearing to be delivering an academic lecture, allow me to remind you that you are not everything in this world. Your company needs you but you are not indispensable. The institution you work for was there before you and will continue to operate the day after you are laid to rest at the cemetery. In essence, life can and will go on without you. Your busyness will not save you from the fact that time a time will come when you will have to exit.

Learn to share out tasks instead of attempting to do everything yourself. There are many other employees working under you or with you who have the same or similar responsibilities. Younger workers also need to learn how to perform the tasks you are carrying out. Hallo? There is something called succession management! Even in your own business, your children need to learn so that they can take over when you are too old to work or when your turn comes to join your ancestors in the next world.

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Before you become a workaholic with no social life, remember the following:

  1. You cannot carry the entire world on your shoulder. Busyness will not help you to solve all the problems of an organisation or family.
  2. Your body has a limit. It cannot work forever and regular periods of rest are necessary for you to operate maximally the following day.
  3. You are a social animal. You need others and they need you. Being busy is akin to severing a limb from your body.
  4. Busyness exhausts your body and the more you work in this state, the less productive you become.

  1. Your life is more important than material belongings. What you need is a sense of belonging to a family or community. Busyness is vanity.
  2. When your history is written, you will be remembered for what you did to change peoples’ lives and not how much money you earned.
  3. You are part of a community. You are either an asset or a liability. The best way to become an asset is to participate in communal events.
  4. Stop glorifying busyness. Don’t talk about being busy as if it is winning a billion dollar lottery.
  5. Develop a program for your life and determine to have more time for yourself, your family and the community.
  6. Remember you only live once and there will be no rehearsal. Don’t wait for the time you will be less busy to take care of other important matters because that time will never come.

I did struggle with being very busy especially when I just started my business 10 years ago. I was and still am very ambitious, but I forgot and didn’t know about how to take care of my body, spirit and mind at the time. But after a while, when loosing the control, social life and not paying attention to my family, thanks god I have reacted and started looking for how to balance it all. Today I must say meditation and taking time off for myself and with friends/family is great benefit for me and everyone who is around myself to! I can proudly say that!

With love,

Your Grace Guru