The desire to be first and to receive praise is the undoing of many of us. For some strange reason, we tend to believe that we are competing with one another. It is a fact that human beings are similar in many ways, but they are also very different. Biologically, we function the same way and are exposed to similar challenges and illnesses. However, when we enter the social realm, all the parameters change.
The world of perceptions is deceptive. We always find reasons to believe that we must strive to be like others. Granted, there is always somebody who will be more handsome or beautiful, stronger, slimmer, faster, smarter and of course younger!
Race To The Top
Life then becomes a race for the top, irrespective of how we get there. You may blame it on instincts – Charles Darwin called it survival for the fittest. You may want to attribute it to our school systems – were we not taught to be the best in our classes?
Danger Of Obsession
But did you know there is some danger in being obsessed with ‘leading while others follow?’
Think about it this way: would it not be better if you set your own goals and strived to achieve them instead of blindly competing with people whose goals you don’t know or share? It is unfortunate that many of us lose focus of what we want to achieve and instead concentrate on being better than others.
The Destination Or The Competition?
Here is one of my favourite examples: A family is taking a car trip from London to Paris! The journey is exciting; the experience unforgettable and punctuated with merry songs. Suddenly the father realises there is another car on the same route, headed to Paris. In a moment of unexplained madness, he decides to accelerate to arrive in Paris before the other driver – a perfect stranger. His concern is no longer with the destination but ‘winning.’ Only competition matters.
The journey of life has its difficulties and challenges and remaining focused on your goal is imperative. There is enough to worry about to the extent that competing with other people becomes unnecessary and useless. Beside, we are all created with different talents and abilities. Live your life and seek to be a winner against your goals not fellow travellers and strangers!
Your Grace Guru